So Vulnerable
Oh my...whats up with this vintage vintagey thing niee...............can't we just move on in life? Sorrie, prior to writing my blog i just came across yet another online shop selling vintage clothes. PFfttt.........talk about trying to create our own self identity when more than half of the young women population here are being pushed back to the 70s and 80s era with the vintage inspired clothes. Look, I have NOTHING against them and even I think that some are cute and nice looking and felt like I want to have a piece of it too when I think back again: didn't I see similar pieces like this somewhere on a few girls before?! Skip!
Anyway, if you want to know a little known fact about me is that I am rather passionate about voicing out my opinions in regards to women issues because being a young woman myself, it is tough living in a world where we are still regarded as if we can't think on our own two feet. While I admire those women who are reaching or have already reached the top of their career paths, the ones that I admire most are the ones who help other women get through their difficult phase in life. If I can use my blog to carry the weight of my opinions on some serious issues, so be it. I may not be so intellectual and well read to start of with but I can still think. Right now, while Im passionate enough to help young girls to be healthier without starving themselves, I dont think Im in a good enough position for that yet although I did email back a young girl when she asked me about what food is good or what food is bad. She tried everything including downing slimming tea but nothing works but when I read her blog, she talked about being so lethargic to go to the gym. I know how it's like to drag more than half your body to the freakin' gym but hey, it wouldn't hurt to put in the efforts if you're determined to achieve what you want, right? I just told her to not give up easily especially when things don't work out at first becaus that will definitely happen many times.
The other issue that I can be passionate about is how us women can be so fragile when it comes to matters of the heart and we're talking about intelligent women who are well read and had successes in their life. To be honest with you, Im sick and tired of reading about women falling prey to the men and who let themselves be trapped emotionally while dismissing people's concern for them as a waste of their time. WHY?
Easy. We are ruled by our heart. While men relish over conquering women as a test of their physical prowess, we relish over how the men can capture our hearts big time. In short, we are easily swayed by feelings and no matter how many times we can get ourselves hurt physically and emotionally, sometimes by the same men, we can forget their misdeeds towards us so easily in the blink of an eye. Some women may forget who gave them the black eye; They forget who insulted us; They forget who is having an affair here. Miraculously, they can put up with such beastly behaviours because they lack self esteem which has already been bruised. They are scared to come out of the dark shadows because they don't know how the society is going to treat them. I would have to agree that the society can be very unkindly and worse, even your own family may regard you as a failure or that we're just being overly sensitive when we try to start our second lease of life. People will always talk but if we always think about them, it is not going to help us in any way.
Sure everyone deserves a second chance because we're all human beings and we are often prone to make mistakes. But if it happens again and again and again without knowing that we are actually slowly destroying ourselves,such UNREAL men are better left alone tending to their own sick mind. This is talking about men with the 'light hand'. How about those who gave us love and affection while also giving us a sense of security making us feel so safe and warm? As 'cushy' that can sound, it can also be hard to accept that these men can also be the one who gave the exact love and affection and who knows, maybe much more of it, to other women like they're the biggest player of women's fragile hearts.
As women, whether we like it or not, we tend to compare ourselves to other women and self consciously compare our physical attributes and our beauty. We get jealous over women who seem to have it all like the brains and beauty..but most of the time, the BODY and the beauty which men seem to love and they flock around them. We also get jealous over how these women get the most handsome ones that we can only dream about or have to settle with the boy next door. Some women even made use of their best assets to make men do what they want for them and they don't even complain about it as long as they get to fulfill their sexual desires and thoughts.
Whatever it is, I am not proud to be associated with women who look down on other women regarded as below their class while loving the attention given by the men who treat them like a queen bee. To me, it is ironic that when we think that we're too fat or too ugly for such gorgeous looking men who hook up with the equally gorgeous women, our relationship with the Average Joe may surpass the duration of their relationship. It proves one thing though: you can only go so far if you just limit the relationship to only on one's good looks.
Back to our own vulnerability. It comes with the package of being a woman but just like how we have to accept the fact that we can be very emotionally driven, we cannot be too submissive to our emotions especially on love. I learnt from a teen programme that Love is Infinite and we can create love as much as we want to instead of harping on one single lost love. It just depends on how open our heart is in accepting love. Oh, and love is not just love towards the man that we love but the love that we receive from and give to others like our friends and family so never turn your back against them. Come on girls...our battle against our emotions can be very draining that even doing the simplest thing can be very daunting. But before we start doing silly things to block out our misery, let's think about whether is it worth wasting our time over people who obviously do not care about how much we suffer inside over them. If the guy does not respect you, put you down, play with your heart or abuse you physically, tell yourself that you are tough. It is not easy at first to just 'get over it' but it is worth trying again and again but this time, seeking the help of those who truly care for us, before it is too late. You can also do yourself a favour by not reading romantic novels or watching sappy movies with a 'happily ever after' ending because this is the real world while these things merely glorify over the issue of love as if you can just start or put an end to it anytime you want. Read inspiring true life stories on how one overcomes their dark period to emerge stronger than they were before.
At least prove to dear ol' Rahayu here whose heart has not opened to the possibility of love yet that we can overcome any challenges in a relationship instead of just finding the easy way out or destroying ourselves. I've seen, heard and read about so many relationships gone bad that I doubt I want to experience the bliss of love very soon if it is going to bring so much hurt later. Im not against men and my friends can stand firm to that but when I think about managing a relationship through its ups and downs, I wouldn't mind being a single for as long as I want to. I've got enough things to manage already, thank you very much unless I am proven to such a great extent to finally open my heart to that one (un)lucky guy.
So people....if your heart is clouded by your misery, it is high time to think more with your head because it can slap the illogical thoughts out of you before it is too late.
Anyway, if you want to know a little known fact about me is that I am rather passionate about voicing out my opinions in regards to women issues because being a young woman myself, it is tough living in a world where we are still regarded as if we can't think on our own two feet. While I admire those women who are reaching or have already reached the top of their career paths, the ones that I admire most are the ones who help other women get through their difficult phase in life. If I can use my blog to carry the weight of my opinions on some serious issues, so be it. I may not be so intellectual and well read to start of with but I can still think. Right now, while Im passionate enough to help young girls to be healthier without starving themselves, I dont think Im in a good enough position for that yet although I did email back a young girl when she asked me about what food is good or what food is bad. She tried everything including downing slimming tea but nothing works but when I read her blog, she talked about being so lethargic to go to the gym. I know how it's like to drag more than half your body to the freakin' gym but hey, it wouldn't hurt to put in the efforts if you're determined to achieve what you want, right? I just told her to not give up easily especially when things don't work out at first becaus that will definitely happen many times.
The other issue that I can be passionate about is how us women can be so fragile when it comes to matters of the heart and we're talking about intelligent women who are well read and had successes in their life. To be honest with you, Im sick and tired of reading about women falling prey to the men and who let themselves be trapped emotionally while dismissing people's concern for them as a waste of their time. WHY?
Easy. We are ruled by our heart. While men relish over conquering women as a test of their physical prowess, we relish over how the men can capture our hearts big time. In short, we are easily swayed by feelings and no matter how many times we can get ourselves hurt physically and emotionally, sometimes by the same men, we can forget their misdeeds towards us so easily in the blink of an eye. Some women may forget who gave them the black eye; They forget who insulted us; They forget who is having an affair here. Miraculously, they can put up with such beastly behaviours because they lack self esteem which has already been bruised. They are scared to come out of the dark shadows because they don't know how the society is going to treat them. I would have to agree that the society can be very unkindly and worse, even your own family may regard you as a failure or that we're just being overly sensitive when we try to start our second lease of life. People will always talk but if we always think about them, it is not going to help us in any way.
Sure everyone deserves a second chance because we're all human beings and we are often prone to make mistakes. But if it happens again and again and again without knowing that we are actually slowly destroying ourselves,such UNREAL men are better left alone tending to their own sick mind. This is talking about men with the 'light hand'. How about those who gave us love and affection while also giving us a sense of security making us feel so safe and warm? As 'cushy' that can sound, it can also be hard to accept that these men can also be the one who gave the exact love and affection and who knows, maybe much more of it, to other women like they're the biggest player of women's fragile hearts.
As women, whether we like it or not, we tend to compare ourselves to other women and self consciously compare our physical attributes and our beauty. We get jealous over women who seem to have it all like the brains and beauty..but most of the time, the BODY and the beauty which men seem to love and they flock around them. We also get jealous over how these women get the most handsome ones that we can only dream about or have to settle with the boy next door. Some women even made use of their best assets to make men do what they want for them and they don't even complain about it as long as they get to fulfill their sexual desires and thoughts.
Whatever it is, I am not proud to be associated with women who look down on other women regarded as below their class while loving the attention given by the men who treat them like a queen bee. To me, it is ironic that when we think that we're too fat or too ugly for such gorgeous looking men who hook up with the equally gorgeous women, our relationship with the Average Joe may surpass the duration of their relationship. It proves one thing though: you can only go so far if you just limit the relationship to only on one's good looks.
Back to our own vulnerability. It comes with the package of being a woman but just like how we have to accept the fact that we can be very emotionally driven, we cannot be too submissive to our emotions especially on love. I learnt from a teen programme that Love is Infinite and we can create love as much as we want to instead of harping on one single lost love. It just depends on how open our heart is in accepting love. Oh, and love is not just love towards the man that we love but the love that we receive from and give to others like our friends and family so never turn your back against them. Come on girls...our battle against our emotions can be very draining that even doing the simplest thing can be very daunting. But before we start doing silly things to block out our misery, let's think about whether is it worth wasting our time over people who obviously do not care about how much we suffer inside over them. If the guy does not respect you, put you down, play with your heart or abuse you physically, tell yourself that you are tough. It is not easy at first to just 'get over it' but it is worth trying again and again but this time, seeking the help of those who truly care for us, before it is too late. You can also do yourself a favour by not reading romantic novels or watching sappy movies with a 'happily ever after' ending because this is the real world while these things merely glorify over the issue of love as if you can just start or put an end to it anytime you want. Read inspiring true life stories on how one overcomes their dark period to emerge stronger than they were before.
At least prove to dear ol' Rahayu here whose heart has not opened to the possibility of love yet that we can overcome any challenges in a relationship instead of just finding the easy way out or destroying ourselves. I've seen, heard and read about so many relationships gone bad that I doubt I want to experience the bliss of love very soon if it is going to bring so much hurt later. Im not against men and my friends can stand firm to that but when I think about managing a relationship through its ups and downs, I wouldn't mind being a single for as long as I want to. I've got enough things to manage already, thank you very much unless I am proven to such a great extent to finally open my heart to that one (un)lucky guy.
So people....if your heart is clouded by your misery, it is high time to think more with your head because it can slap the illogical thoughts out of you before it is too late.
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