Sunday, June 22, 2014

Making Hard & Unconventional Decisions

What happens when you have to make unpopular decisions, that many people will disagree but you felt like it's the best decision for you. Often, you will come across such crossroads and then you have to weigh against what your heart desires and what other people think.

Many successful entrepreneurs or individuals have made unpopular decisions even under the tightest circumstances that they are under. When they think that this is the end, they can't go further than this, but with unwavering support, grit and determination, the impossible can turn into a possible.

I believe there are roadblocks in every pathway we choose. I never thought I would continue my studies but I did and even though my last result was dismal, I don't want to make it like it's the end. It may not be a degree but I'm hoping that with this diploma, I may be in better places that will eventually make me realize my dream of having a degree, no matter what age I am. There are those who quit their jobs, to go into studies full time, even though they have to put their marriage plans on hold. However, they didn't stop there. They took on freelancing jobs to get it going because there is no way you can survive here in Singapore without some form of income. I don't wish to struggle all the time, hence I work hard to ensure money comes in every week, in bits and pieces, no less...but I'm hoping in the near future, it will be much more than now. For now, I just have to keep at it and work harder.

I've come across decisions made which I felt strongly disagreeable because based on experience, and the person's situation, this will be very very tough. But what I hate to be is someone who puts a stop to something that may turn out to be better. We may be adults but sometimes, we do make decisions that are too emotional and without much thought.We may beg and plead for the person to change the mind, if they've made up their mind, there is little we can do except to just be there when things don't turn out as planned. 

If you have made decisions or are making big decisions in life right now, please breathe and I know sometimes we just don't want to listen to other people for fear that we get sidetracked. But do listen and make decisions from there. It's always good to hear from all points of view and from angles that we never thought about. The road we pave may not be the conventional one but if we can overcome the obstacles, without too much trouble on others, then we're truly on the road to discovery to perhaps something better.

All the best!


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My Second Malacca Trip (06 to 07 June 2014)

I had the chance to visit Malacca again and this time, I actually got to get down and see for myself the famous 'red' landmarks and even visited the Peranakan Museum owned by a wealthy Peranakan family. Well, it was also my first company trip where I actually had to pay half of the amount which is bummer for me but it's er..reasonably priced..just treat it as a mini holiday. I have to work harder now just to recoup back the money, haha. But yes, you will probably argue that the experience of learning and being immersed in the culture from another country is priceless.

There are some things that I, unfortunately, can't eat like their famous bowl of Chendol which my VP raved about because they were simply good and most importantly, authentic with its 'gula melaka' goodness. So much so, they ate it for the second time, thanks to him...when we went back to the Jongker street at night, to experience the night market, and boy was it SUPER THE CROWDED. It's amazing how I managed to find my way out, haha. Though I didn't eat the must be delicious chendol, I had ice kachang instead. I preferred the original version than the mango ice kachang. The latter was a tad bit too sweet. 

The tour we had at the Peranakan Museum offered us a glimpse on how they used to live in the past with their super strict culture and how they ostracized the single women and delegating the women to home stay and duties, not allowing them to work. Hrm..we should be lucky that we are allowed to be more independent now than in the past although in some cultures, women are still treated as second class citizens.

Oh, just a tiny discovery we made about the tour guide. She moonlights as one of the street hawkers just outside the Peranakan Museum at night! So she was right in saying that now, women have to work unlike in the past generations to bring in money. Talk about working tirelessly.

While this was not part of the learning journey, we actually had lunch at two different golf courses and they were huge with such beautiful sceneries. Can't help but take selfies, and eventually, a group photo together. After a long while too, I stayed at the hotel for one night with my colleague and except for a few silly mishaps (like me wetting the dry toilet thanks to the leaking pipe) and a slight argument and unhappiness about the hotel rooms. My kind room mate who was also the organiser, had kindly offered to exchange our room with another pair who was simply unhappy that they had to get the room with no windows, aka, no view. While that was kind of a bummer, I'm just happy to get a room. See, how easy to please me, like as if I get the chance to stay at a hotel every other day. I understand their unhappiness and how they were forced to agree that it was a non-issue. 

However, I did get some view eventually in the next morning when we went room venturing to our other colleagues' room, which I agree, were far bigger than us. The only difference was that I couldn't tell between the day and night when there is no window, haha.

I think my only grouch (besides the room with no view) was that how I had to queue for quite awhile on the second day at Aeon, which is a pretty big shopping mall, to get my stuffs, eventually missing out on the more important shopping such as for clothes. I didn't believe I queued that long for a piece of pretzel, should have just walked away and proceeded to the department store instead. It was a public holiday for them as it was the King's birthday, plus it was Saturday. But still, angry with myself for spending unneccesary queueing time at a queue which moved ever so slowly. I didn't understand how only one person managed the counter while one was just arranging the pretzels and the other one was moping the very small area of space for a long time. Talk about inefficiency and the couple behind just can't stop yakking about how these girls were inefficient.

Oh well..

Other than that, please enjoy the pictures!

The big ship outside the Maritime Museum

Mango Ice Kachang

My morning breakfast! yumz..

View from the restaurant

Pool view

Room selfie

Interior of the hotel

Beautiful view at the golf course course selfie?

with my travel companion and unofficial photographer

sitting among the famous red landmarks

original ice kachang with thick gula melaka syrup

bookmark as souvenir from the museum

vising the bees museum..their toys on sale

meet my new friend!

view from another golf course

yet another golf course selfie

the 'famous' room with no view

view from another hotel room

gorgeous scenery!

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Thursday, June 12, 2014

Depressing Marks & A Wake Up Call

What if life gives you a wake up call making you think harder and reflect on what you have been doing so far. Just when you thought you have everything under control and then wham! You hit a brick wall.

That is what's going with me right now, when I got the results of my last paper. I couldn't even bear to write the name of the subject here coz it's that depressing. Eurgh. I guess I was looking at the questions from a different angle and failed to answer them point blank with theories that will give me the marks for the key points.

I don't know why I looked at that angle. I guess I was used to such questions asking in such manner, though that was years and years back. 

But the underlying problem is also because I guess I didn't put too much effort into them. I don't have the quick understanding of most people in the class. That is why I MUST spend more time with the books and understanding and grasping their concepts so that I can so called sail through the questions.

I spent too much time on running my online shop. This is certainly not like the previous module where I could study last minute and still manage to scrap through especially for the business IT which drove me nuts during the lessons for not being able to figure out. I had to sit down, read, understand and practice because I couldn't afford to fail the subject. 

The current subjects are heavy with information. I also have two projects to do. 

I promise this will be the lowest mark ever obtained by me throughout the course.

No point looking back. It's time to move forward and get those lost marks back through the projects.

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Wednesday, June 11, 2014

My Brother Turned 19!!

Somebody turned 19 recently last month! Time has passed by so fat. I remembered how fat and chubby he was when he was a baby that carrying him wasn't my favourite because he was so heavy. However, I loved playing with him, hearing him chuckle was one of my favourites (besides turning him over).

But now this boy is almost at the end of his teenage hood. So far, I appreciate his presence, his sometimes emo-ness like any typical teenager, his warmth with his friends and the people he meet, unlike the rather cold and quiet me, and he is adventurous in his own ways, as long as they don't involve high risks, haha.

So far ( far), he has been a good boy, good in saving his money instead of carelessly spending his money away, and he's really fuss free but like any other teenagers his age, he does have his fussy moments with food, in particular our own traditional food. Oh, and chilli sauce. He just hates it so much. 

I wish I could provide more for this boy because being a sole breadwinner, earning this much of money only for our family of three, there's only so much I can do. But he doesn't always complain although once in awhile, he does have his grouches, which I don't blame him for. While it's comfortable staying here, I must admit the cost of living here is really high. However, hope he knows I try my best each and every day to put food on our table.

Once again,


(hope he reads this..haha)

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Monday, June 09, 2014

Sumptuous Meal at Bali Thai Singapore

(note: this is not a sponsored post)

I had this meal over at Bali Thai in mid April and I tell ya, the food was soo good. My only grouch is that I ordered satay sauce with the phad thai but it was a tad too little. From their restaurant name, you know that they serve Bali and Thai food. What a great concoction of Asian dishes!

The best thing is that you can actually create your own noodle dish. Not literally in the kitchen but rather pick and choose what you would like, from the noodle type and the gravy.

Another winner is their Satay and if you're in a group, you can buy their Combi Bakar (Mixed BBQ Platter) which you can share. I do find their tom yam broth too spicy though. But then again, maybe it's just my taste bud although I can endure spicy food. 

The price wise, I would say that it's mid-range so if you're planning to share the total price or to celebrate a special function, you may consider this place as your next food destination.

Find out more about them via their facebook page here

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Promotion Ceremony - Another One for Me!

So happy, I got yet another promotion! Wow, and within a span of 2 years. Great feeling and totally unexpected after all the scoldings and reprimanding I have been getting concerning my work, hee. But the the bottom line is, if you are willing to work hard and show them that you have learnt your mistakes, be tactful when dealing with customers and have great team work with your colleagues, then it's all good. 

But if you want to make it further, you must also be willing to share ideas, make improvements to the current work process and teach others when they're in doubt. It's really no point being selfish because you must know that you're working for the organization and not for yourself.

I have no idea how much my pay will increase but hopefully, it will be quite a substantial one. It's not that I am greedy but to just be able to further support my family. I did check my CV under HR online but it's stated as a $50 increment?! I hope it's not that low of an increment. Oh well, let's see how when the payslip comes in.

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Sunday, June 01, 2014

Delaying Things...& Bearing the Consequences

About two weeks ago, I had a mini breakdown. I literally cried because I was so disappointed with myself for not following up with something that I thought had little importance. Turned out that I didn't read the clause and end up, my brother's money was stuck in the account. All we had to do was to activate the new card given to us and unfortunately, we didn't and we end up having the two cards cancelled. The activation can be done at the branch itself but unfortunately, the card belonged to my father who is no longer around and my brother has been using the card. Naturally, they would ask for identification and then we couldn't produce it obviously and in the end, the card could not be activated and the money was stuck inside.

So I became so disappointed I cried when we left the bank because I felt like I was responsible. I did remind my brother about activating it but I should have known better that he would take his time too and eventually forget. The matter was only resolved this afternoon, after I attended a study group and had to leave halfway because we wanted to settle it. We had to involve my mother and told her that the banks had cancelled the cards so we have to bring her along because she is, by right, the next in line to receive the money (though technically, it's my brother's money). Lucky thing she didn't flip out or panic. Okay fine, the only time she panicked only when I was running late and the bank was going to close.

Unfortunately, the bank account had to be closed in order to get the money out. Even though it was a non-issue for them, my brother now has no choice but to make use of his own account. Another issue is to apply for an atm card for him so that he can deposit and withdraw his money at a convenience. Now, the money is in cash form and I'm holding it for him although he's grudgingly kind enough to loan to me and my mum $50 each, hehe. That $50 will be used for my upcoming trip to Malacca next week.

So lesson learnt here, never ever delay things at last minute or before it's too late. This coincides with another lesson I learnt (geez...see what a klutz I am) which is to remember where exactly my documents by being more alert especially when I'm cleaning the room. The whole day and night I was occupied with where have I placed the important document and I just couldn't recall and by the time I reached home after 11.30pm, I immediately searched for it. I was praying the whole time after lesson ended to hopefully find it. So as I was opening the second drawer, I saw something. Not the actual thing but a very important clue as to where I have placed it. And immediately, as I went to the other side of the room, I found in a file which I TOTALLY could not recall at all as much as I tried to. 

So yes, I was in such big dilemmas. I don't want this to happen again because once I have experienced it, I would say that they are lessons learnt hard.

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Long Weekend, A Little Rambling & My Lack of Gratitude

The day I discover IG filters It's almost mid week to August..argh. I am in the midst of a long weekend, which sadly will come to ...