Between Innocence and Being Real
I still can't get over the movie Sepet...and I think it's just one of those movies...very rare indeed, that touches me deep inside which sorta make me believe that the power of love is stronger than anything u can imagine. It can start off relatively sweet straightaway or it takes a longer time to digest....or even a basic conversation that slowly blossoms into a deeper understanding and a longing to spend more time with each other because there are just so many things to say and ask. I know that this is just a movie....but this movie is really not like the typical Malaysian movies churned out recently...and with the casting of newcomers who were brilliant on screen together...it just goes to show that the Malaysian movie industry is not dead yet after all. It can still revive back the good 'ol days when classic Malay movies have such a deep impact across Asian societies, whether in the past or future generations. That is how a movie should be. Real....touching....and with a dash of 'daringness' to go non-politically correct to address issues that have been plaguing the local society. Issues like racism...status quo....stereotypes...Who cares about the censorship board...if u have something that everyone can learn from, why not just put the issues across and make people stand up and take notice? As Asian societies, we are onlie as narrow or broad in thinking in terms of how much we are willing to absorb. Sometimes calling us 'modern' can be quite a disgrace considering the people in the past were so much more carefree than us without being bogged down with silly little things...simplicity was the way to go..and even though changes or progressions are good, I guess sometimes we should be able to laugh at ourselves instead of constantly self-censoring whatever comes out of our mouth.
Like I said umpteen of times, who cares if you are part of a race that invokes so much hatred from other domineering races. Just like the female lead in the movie, she changed people's perceptions towards Malays by being this really outspoken girl who is not afraid to state the true facts, even in regards about her own race, as opposed to the neutral standing taken by the Chinese friend of her boyfriend. It's not about mockery...it's about discovery.....and accepting facts as they are. Just like how a majority of those jailed for abuse of drugs...gangsterism....is Malays, that's a fact. We're not trying to condemn anyone here but if we don't accept the cold hard truth, we are never gonna find a solution to it. Instead of being bewildered by the accusations and the alarming state of racism targeted at us...we should not forget about where we stand now. No one can be truly settled in one country because each country has their own pros and cons. So what can we do about it? We can try to dig deep into the roots of the problems instead of being sensitive over what others got to say. Even if we manage to cut down the percentages of crimes, divorce rates, abortion and etc within our own racial society by a small margin every year..at least we are doing something about it. Trust me, it is a lot better than just leaving the problems alone and let it accumulate higher and higher percentages in the future that we will obviously be labelled the so-called 'troublemakers'. Don't let people blacklist us.
Anyway, let's talk about the CSI:Miami show I watched the day before. I would say I was rather disappointed that it wasn't much of a good storyline but somehow, within that ER dept where a gun shootout took place, it was also one of the least places likely to be attacked by the street gangs. But within this room, there was this woman with a baby whom Wolfe suspected to be he case of child abuse from some bruisings and fibre found in his mouth even though he was onlie like six months. Imagine that little chubby baby having to endure the pains inflicted upon him at such a tender age..u wonder whether his arrival in this world has been a mistake. Or u wonder if his parents are worse than animals.
But jz as u conjure up images of the poor little baby being put through one form of abuse after another, it was after all, not a case of child abuse. It's about not loving the baby enough and the mother treating her own child like a 'business transaction' by merely passing the baby like a pillow from one nanny to another. And she did this without flinching her eyes and conducting business transactions over the phone. When the DNA of the woman found with the baby in the E.R. was not the mother, I thought that she was done for. It could be a case of kidnap over a baby she has emotionally attached herself to. It was then that she revealed that she was just doing a good deed twds the baby by attempting the 'kidnap' so that they know how it is like to lose a child which they dont quite shower with love themselves. But she promised to return him back once they felt remorseful seeing their baby was not within their site.
However, there was no lesson to be learnt...at least by the real mother who wholly left this whole baby responsibility to outsiders..better known as nannies to her. She just passed him to this woman who rode the same car as her right after fetching her baby son from the csi officer. Sometimes, we cannot tell people how they should treat their child...because no one likes to be dictated over. But as parents or guardians of children, we still are able to teach them not to be a burden to society...preferably best before the hormones kick in..haha...aka hitting puberty. Once they pass that stage, changes are definitely major. This is gonna be the toughest time to nurture...but jz like maths, if we can get by the foundations comfortably to go to the next level, slowly the obstacles will get less and less difficult. So, we don't quite know how such babies like the one in CSI...used to the love and care from outsiders, will be like when he grow up. Only advantage is, he is still too young to differentiate love. All he wants is just attention given to him whenever he needs milk or need to sleep.
When children grow up, we don't quite know how they are going to turn out like; caring? daring? a major havoc? Heck....so as silly as this sounds, before they start to listen to their friends or peers more than the parents, I guess parents should take full advantage of the times when their children still have this sense of innocence in them where the things they absorb around them are digested into these really witty analogies. We can discipline them...scold them when necessary..but don't forget to laugh with them. Like my brother, as much as I hate his annoying lazy attitude when it comes to his studies, he can be so charming and so darn cute at times that I forget I am 14 yrs older than him. We simply have this great connection with each other...that if he came into my life earlier, I wouldn't have been a lonely and shy gal as known to people.
Anyway, we all change at some point of time but sometimes we cannot totally get rid of our past personality. It has already been part of our flesh and blood that parts of it can still show up. Like now..people know me as this nice gal whom they are comfortable to chat with...but at the same time, I still can 'clam up'. Oh well......at least I'm still real.
Like I said umpteen of times, who cares if you are part of a race that invokes so much hatred from other domineering races. Just like the female lead in the movie, she changed people's perceptions towards Malays by being this really outspoken girl who is not afraid to state the true facts, even in regards about her own race, as opposed to the neutral standing taken by the Chinese friend of her boyfriend. It's not about mockery...it's about discovery.....and accepting facts as they are. Just like how a majority of those jailed for abuse of drugs...gangsterism....is Malays, that's a fact. We're not trying to condemn anyone here but if we don't accept the cold hard truth, we are never gonna find a solution to it. Instead of being bewildered by the accusations and the alarming state of racism targeted at us...we should not forget about where we stand now. No one can be truly settled in one country because each country has their own pros and cons. So what can we do about it? We can try to dig deep into the roots of the problems instead of being sensitive over what others got to say. Even if we manage to cut down the percentages of crimes, divorce rates, abortion and etc within our own racial society by a small margin every year..at least we are doing something about it. Trust me, it is a lot better than just leaving the problems alone and let it accumulate higher and higher percentages in the future that we will obviously be labelled the so-called 'troublemakers'. Don't let people blacklist us.
Anyway, let's talk about the CSI:Miami show I watched the day before. I would say I was rather disappointed that it wasn't much of a good storyline but somehow, within that ER dept where a gun shootout took place, it was also one of the least places likely to be attacked by the street gangs. But within this room, there was this woman with a baby whom Wolfe suspected to be he case of child abuse from some bruisings and fibre found in his mouth even though he was onlie like six months. Imagine that little chubby baby having to endure the pains inflicted upon him at such a tender age..u wonder whether his arrival in this world has been a mistake. Or u wonder if his parents are worse than animals.
But jz as u conjure up images of the poor little baby being put through one form of abuse after another, it was after all, not a case of child abuse. It's about not loving the baby enough and the mother treating her own child like a 'business transaction' by merely passing the baby like a pillow from one nanny to another. And she did this without flinching her eyes and conducting business transactions over the phone. When the DNA of the woman found with the baby in the E.R. was not the mother, I thought that she was done for. It could be a case of kidnap over a baby she has emotionally attached herself to. It was then that she revealed that she was just doing a good deed twds the baby by attempting the 'kidnap' so that they know how it is like to lose a child which they dont quite shower with love themselves. But she promised to return him back once they felt remorseful seeing their baby was not within their site.
However, there was no lesson to be learnt...at least by the real mother who wholly left this whole baby responsibility to outsiders..better known as nannies to her. She just passed him to this woman who rode the same car as her right after fetching her baby son from the csi officer. Sometimes, we cannot tell people how they should treat their child...because no one likes to be dictated over. But as parents or guardians of children, we still are able to teach them not to be a burden to society...preferably best before the hormones kick in..haha...aka hitting puberty. Once they pass that stage, changes are definitely major. This is gonna be the toughest time to nurture...but jz like maths, if we can get by the foundations comfortably to go to the next level, slowly the obstacles will get less and less difficult. So, we don't quite know how such babies like the one in CSI...used to the love and care from outsiders, will be like when he grow up. Only advantage is, he is still too young to differentiate love. All he wants is just attention given to him whenever he needs milk or need to sleep.
When children grow up, we don't quite know how they are going to turn out like; caring? daring? a major havoc? Heck....so as silly as this sounds, before they start to listen to their friends or peers more than the parents, I guess parents should take full advantage of the times when their children still have this sense of innocence in them where the things they absorb around them are digested into these really witty analogies. We can discipline them...scold them when necessary..but don't forget to laugh with them. Like my brother, as much as I hate his annoying lazy attitude when it comes to his studies, he can be so charming and so darn cute at times that I forget I am 14 yrs older than him. We simply have this great connection with each other...that if he came into my life earlier, I wouldn't have been a lonely and shy gal as known to people.
Anyway, we all change at some point of time but sometimes we cannot totally get rid of our past personality. It has already been part of our flesh and blood that parts of it can still show up. Like now..people know me as this nice gal whom they are comfortable to chat with...but at the same time, I still can 'clam up'. Oh well......at least I'm still real.
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