New Man in 2011?
Get yourself a new man within one month of the year 2011. Serious! Honestly, it can happen if we are willing to take a bold stand and make some tweaks to our current lifestyle and outlook on life so that you can truly bag a good deal man. Now even if you are a sceptic, there are some good tips that can help you change your life especially for us young women.
I've recently read an article on bagging a man in 28 days from Cleo (Feb issue 2010) but I'm not going to put the article here wholesale. I just want to share with you some fun bits based on that magazine as well as from my own personal experiences. As far as you know, I'm still single but from what I've observed, it's not that hard to bag a man if you are really interested in putting yourself forth in the possibility of getting yourself at least a date with a guy whom you have shown interest in.
Here goes!
KNOW WHAT YOU WANT IN A MAN
I do a mental note of what kind of guys I want to date though I'm always joking around that I want a guy with good looks and nice bod. Okay fine, I'm half joking about that. But the best is to write down what you want and try not to be so generic because you want to zoom in on the best candidates just like an interview where you short list the guys based on the relevant criteria. Once you find yourself a guy who best match to your criteria, don't play too hard to get. Zoom in on your target or you will lose out.
SMELL NICE AND LOVELY
Nobody likes to smell bad but honestly, sometimes we don't notice but other people may notice our B.O. Keep yourself dry at all times and wear an anti perspirant deodorant if you must. Spritz on some nice fragrance that match closely to your personality yet sensuous enough to attract the male species.
LET YOUR HAIR DOWN
A healthy shiny mane is a must and if you have dry hair, get to the root of the problem..heh. Invest in good shampoos that not only give you shinier looking hair, but solve your problems as well whether your hair is dry or if you have oily scalp. If you have unruly hair, buy an anti frizz serum on top of your shampoo and conditioner. With your hair in tip top condition, you are sure gonna be a head turner.
WEAR THE RIGHT CLOTHES
Know your body type whether you are petite, top heavy, pear shaped or full figured. Don't be in denial about it because it will get you to buy the right clothes that not only fit you but flatter your figure. For example, if you are pear shaped, you can get a dress that is in two colours where the bottom colour is preferably in black to hide your hips and even out your body proportions.
FIND YOUR CREATIVE FLAIR
Actually we can be creative which we can flaunt because creativity allows one to express themselves. If you are into music, you can show off your creative flair by telling the guy you're interested in the kinds of music you're into and what makes them tick or even rattle off the books you have read and enjoyed. To boost further your creativity, you can start an online portfolio where it's easily accessible and also free to start with, and put up images of your painting or scrapbooking so that he can go in and check and be surprised at what a creative chick you are.
BE TICKLED BY YOUR FUNNY BONE
Seeing the lighter side of things instead of being too rigid help to make you attractive as you learn to not be afraid to laugh and at times, at yourself even. It makes you sincere and warm like you can take a joke. Also, you don't always have to cover your mouth when you laugh because it means that you have something to hide.
TRUST ON YOUR INSTANT ATTRACTION
When you head somewhere like a bookshop or a coffee joint, there may be chance encounters where you feel an instant attraction to someone. It's not wrong to feel that way because humans size up another fellow human being based on looks, and perceived career and personality. Honestly, sometimes it's just good to follow your instinct and flash your best smile or stand at least one meter away from him and give your best side glances to show your interest. Oh, and cross your fingers your gut instinct doesn't fail you.
DEVELOP YOUR OWN BRAND
Honestly, a Coach bag is just a bag but what makes it stand out from the rest? Its quality of workmanship, design and glamour quotient makes a Coach bag very desirable that women are willing to plonk a generous amount of their salary, or an even the entire amount, on a Coach brand. Take the time to develop your 'brand' by asking yourself what you like most about yourself and whether how you dress and speak reflect on your true personality. Seriously there are so many single women out there but how the guys pick us is based on how we carry ourselves.
BE A GOOD CONVERSATIONALIST
A good conversationalist isn't just showing off how knowledgeable you are about the current affairs but is willing to listen, understand and ask questions. Don't ask dead end questions but ask questions that will open up the conversation even more like for example, say this movie has such an intriguing ending. Do you agree with the ending. What's your favourite parts of the movie?
GET RID OF SELF ESTEEM ISSUES
Not everybody gets into our good books but it doesn't mean that we have the right to condemn them. Instead of being negative, work on being positive by focusing on yourself instead of focusing on what you don't like about them. Believe that you have much self worth by focusing on the things that you like about yourself.
SOCIAL NETWORKING
If you are shy about getting to know someone upfront, you can make use of social networking websites such as Facebook to get to know a person better. Leave comments on his pictures, start a chat session with him and be updated on his FB status and drop comments every now and then to show him that you are interested in the going ons in his life.
FIND AN EXCUSE TO GO OUT WITH HIM
If you like a guy, find an excuse to go out with him. If a movie has just been released, perhaps you can let him know that hey, nobody wants to go with you coz they're too busy but if he's willing, he can go with you. Create a white lie if you must.
BE A GYM BUNNY
Telling a guy that you work out or you enjoy exercises as it's all part of a healthy lifestyle let him know that you care much about your well being. Just don't complain to him about how your arms feel like breaking the following day.
WALK TALL WITH CONFIDENCE
Being confident will give off a sexy vibe so push your shoulders back to instantly give you a chest lift and improve on your posture. Don't walk with a slight hunch. Instead, walk with the whole weight of yours on the front of your feet even when you are in heels so your strides will look effortless. When you walk into a room, all eyes will turn on you.
SPEAK WELL
Don't mumble through your words and learn to speak well so that he sees it as someone who is sure of herself. And please don't punctuate your sentences with giggles every now and then because it shows how nervous you are and that isn't very sexy especially if you are trying to snag a guy. It can be fatal when he finds it a turn off.
JUST ASK HIM OUT
Men may find this act a bit intimidating but you don't have to pull him by the collar to get your attention. You can instead be direct by asking him if he wants to go out for dinner with you at this restaurant others have been raving about. But here's the thing. If he rejects you, don't feel like it's the end of the world. Life goes on and therefore you should move on to others because really, there are many single guys out there still. Men have it worse actually because they are supposed to be facing stronger rejections from us since they mostly do all the chasing.
WHERE ARE THESE MEN?
You can definitely find men at clubs and bars but they're generally not good places to sniff out men who are keen on first dates. Apart from chance encounters at places like a bookstore or a workshop, do tap into your own social networks which includes your friends, in real life or online in facebook, and let them know that hey, if they know someone who may be interested in getting to know more friends, you are up for it. It doesn't make you desperate sounding but just keen on expanding your social circle.
If I can leave some words of wisdom, that will be, if opportunities don't come knocking, build your own door. I got that from a calendar sent by the Social Development Network, a government subsidiary, which apparently is keen on tapping on the single young people in Singapore and encourage them to get married though of course, it's mainly for economic purposes.
Have fun trying these tips out!
follow me at http://twitter.com/rahayupopz
I've recently read an article on bagging a man in 28 days from Cleo (Feb issue 2010) but I'm not going to put the article here wholesale. I just want to share with you some fun bits based on that magazine as well as from my own personal experiences. As far as you know, I'm still single but from what I've observed, it's not that hard to bag a man if you are really interested in putting yourself forth in the possibility of getting yourself at least a date with a guy whom you have shown interest in.
Here goes!
KNOW WHAT YOU WANT IN A MAN
I do a mental note of what kind of guys I want to date though I'm always joking around that I want a guy with good looks and nice bod. Okay fine, I'm half joking about that. But the best is to write down what you want and try not to be so generic because you want to zoom in on the best candidates just like an interview where you short list the guys based on the relevant criteria. Once you find yourself a guy who best match to your criteria, don't play too hard to get. Zoom in on your target or you will lose out.
SMELL NICE AND LOVELY
Nobody likes to smell bad but honestly, sometimes we don't notice but other people may notice our B.O. Keep yourself dry at all times and wear an anti perspirant deodorant if you must. Spritz on some nice fragrance that match closely to your personality yet sensuous enough to attract the male species.
LET YOUR HAIR DOWN
A healthy shiny mane is a must and if you have dry hair, get to the root of the problem..heh. Invest in good shampoos that not only give you shinier looking hair, but solve your problems as well whether your hair is dry or if you have oily scalp. If you have unruly hair, buy an anti frizz serum on top of your shampoo and conditioner. With your hair in tip top condition, you are sure gonna be a head turner.
WEAR THE RIGHT CLOTHES
Know your body type whether you are petite, top heavy, pear shaped or full figured. Don't be in denial about it because it will get you to buy the right clothes that not only fit you but flatter your figure. For example, if you are pear shaped, you can get a dress that is in two colours where the bottom colour is preferably in black to hide your hips and even out your body proportions.
FIND YOUR CREATIVE FLAIR
Actually we can be creative which we can flaunt because creativity allows one to express themselves. If you are into music, you can show off your creative flair by telling the guy you're interested in the kinds of music you're into and what makes them tick or even rattle off the books you have read and enjoyed. To boost further your creativity, you can start an online portfolio where it's easily accessible and also free to start with, and put up images of your painting or scrapbooking so that he can go in and check and be surprised at what a creative chick you are.
BE TICKLED BY YOUR FUNNY BONE
Seeing the lighter side of things instead of being too rigid help to make you attractive as you learn to not be afraid to laugh and at times, at yourself even. It makes you sincere and warm like you can take a joke. Also, you don't always have to cover your mouth when you laugh because it means that you have something to hide.
TRUST ON YOUR INSTANT ATTRACTION
When you head somewhere like a bookshop or a coffee joint, there may be chance encounters where you feel an instant attraction to someone. It's not wrong to feel that way because humans size up another fellow human being based on looks, and perceived career and personality. Honestly, sometimes it's just good to follow your instinct and flash your best smile or stand at least one meter away from him and give your best side glances to show your interest. Oh, and cross your fingers your gut instinct doesn't fail you.
DEVELOP YOUR OWN BRAND
Honestly, a Coach bag is just a bag but what makes it stand out from the rest? Its quality of workmanship, design and glamour quotient makes a Coach bag very desirable that women are willing to plonk a generous amount of their salary, or an even the entire amount, on a Coach brand. Take the time to develop your 'brand' by asking yourself what you like most about yourself and whether how you dress and speak reflect on your true personality. Seriously there are so many single women out there but how the guys pick us is based on how we carry ourselves.
BE A GOOD CONVERSATIONALIST
A good conversationalist isn't just showing off how knowledgeable you are about the current affairs but is willing to listen, understand and ask questions. Don't ask dead end questions but ask questions that will open up the conversation even more like for example, say this movie has such an intriguing ending. Do you agree with the ending. What's your favourite parts of the movie?
GET RID OF SELF ESTEEM ISSUES
Not everybody gets into our good books but it doesn't mean that we have the right to condemn them. Instead of being negative, work on being positive by focusing on yourself instead of focusing on what you don't like about them. Believe that you have much self worth by focusing on the things that you like about yourself.
SOCIAL NETWORKING
If you are shy about getting to know someone upfront, you can make use of social networking websites such as Facebook to get to know a person better. Leave comments on his pictures, start a chat session with him and be updated on his FB status and drop comments every now and then to show him that you are interested in the going ons in his life.
FIND AN EXCUSE TO GO OUT WITH HIM
If you like a guy, find an excuse to go out with him. If a movie has just been released, perhaps you can let him know that hey, nobody wants to go with you coz they're too busy but if he's willing, he can go with you. Create a white lie if you must.
BE A GYM BUNNY
Telling a guy that you work out or you enjoy exercises as it's all part of a healthy lifestyle let him know that you care much about your well being. Just don't complain to him about how your arms feel like breaking the following day.
WALK TALL WITH CONFIDENCE
Being confident will give off a sexy vibe so push your shoulders back to instantly give you a chest lift and improve on your posture. Don't walk with a slight hunch. Instead, walk with the whole weight of yours on the front of your feet even when you are in heels so your strides will look effortless. When you walk into a room, all eyes will turn on you.
SPEAK WELL
Don't mumble through your words and learn to speak well so that he sees it as someone who is sure of herself. And please don't punctuate your sentences with giggles every now and then because it shows how nervous you are and that isn't very sexy especially if you are trying to snag a guy. It can be fatal when he finds it a turn off.
JUST ASK HIM OUT
Men may find this act a bit intimidating but you don't have to pull him by the collar to get your attention. You can instead be direct by asking him if he wants to go out for dinner with you at this restaurant others have been raving about. But here's the thing. If he rejects you, don't feel like it's the end of the world. Life goes on and therefore you should move on to others because really, there are many single guys out there still. Men have it worse actually because they are supposed to be facing stronger rejections from us since they mostly do all the chasing.
WHERE ARE THESE MEN?
You can definitely find men at clubs and bars but they're generally not good places to sniff out men who are keen on first dates. Apart from chance encounters at places like a bookstore or a workshop, do tap into your own social networks which includes your friends, in real life or online in facebook, and let them know that hey, if they know someone who may be interested in getting to know more friends, you are up for it. It doesn't make you desperate sounding but just keen on expanding your social circle.
If I can leave some words of wisdom, that will be, if opportunities don't come knocking, build your own door. I got that from a calendar sent by the Social Development Network, a government subsidiary, which apparently is keen on tapping on the single young people in Singapore and encourage them to get married though of course, it's mainly for economic purposes.
Have fun trying these tips out!
follow me at http://twitter.com/rahayupopz
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