But Why?
Actually, Im supposed to write about what happened yesterday but I think I just want to write about something that is pretty disturbing to me. Like how some women continue to be tied down emotionally by low lifers whose ambition in life is to bring down the women who are doing very well on their own. Im talking about the women professionals who are making a name for themselves and whose income power is above average. But unfortunately, what saddens me is that how willing they are to lower down their standards and would rather face their husband's cold heartedness towards them just so that they can continue to be loved or that their children has someone to call as their father. But why?
I know I have never been in their position and it will be too easy for an outsider to simply tell such women to get out of their shaky marriage. If it is not physical abuse, it is emotional abuse and to me, both are just as bad. Everyone deserves a second chance and as hard as it is to forgive someone who torments us like we're just a piece of meat, it is harder to accept how one can change into a completely different person. But if it is always the case of torturing and then coming back like a lovelorn puppy begging to be picked up and to be loved again and again, what happiness are you giving yourself? Do we have to act like nothing happened? As modernised as we call ourselves that women have the capabilities to do the job that supposedly only men can do, we should applaud ourselves on that. The world will never be fair and men and women can never be equal because each has their own strengths and weaknesses. It is just a matter of trying to live in peace with one another and by making peace, it does not mean that we always have to conform to what the other person has to say. So he does shower you with all the love and he can be the perfect husband or the perfect father when he is not bashing you up. Then when he does bash you up or call you names, is that part of a husband's responsibility to the wife? What if the children witness all of this and then what do you say to them? That it is okay for the husband to treat the wife like that because it is his responsibility? What are you trying to teach them? And what if, they reciprocate that when they have their own families because mummy said it is okay?
Come on people, if you can rise above everybody to be successful in your career, you don't need some scumbag to treat you like dirt just so that you have someone to love you. If he truly loves you, he won't hurt you. It's just so sick and so inhuman. We're not some punching bag and if he is earning lower than us or having a business that is not doing so well and causing him stress, he should do something about it. We should not feel sorry for him just because he is unable to rise above the rest. Do you really want a husband who blames you for everything because of his bruised ego that cannot be nursed back because he refuses to help himself? We can help him in whatever we can but just don't be a victim here. The society may seem cruel to women divorcees because they think we bring these up upon ourselves just because they dont see the full picture and whatever it is, we are not at fault. Sometimes things don't work out doesn't mean we're failures. We just have to get up and show these people, who probably have nothing better to do than poke into people's business, that we are survivors.
We women, whether young or old, must stay united because it is not easy leading our lives as there so many responsibilities that we have to carry. Thats what makes us special because even though we have to work extra hard to show the men that we can earn just as much or even more than them, ultimately we're doing it for ourselves. We're not doing it because we want to show the men whose boss so why do some women still think that we cannot survive without men. Yes, we cannot completely ignore the opposite sex because they are still God's creations and the important thing is that we have to live in harmony together. But not all treat us with respect so don't be a victim to them. Sure they can be so lovey dovey at first but if they got bored with us halfway, it still doesn't give them the priviledge to treat us like dirt.
Come on, stop blaming on yourself and then destroy yourself slowly. Pick yourself up and bring up the courage in you to try and move on and build a better life. It is not easy to let go of the past and then we have to learn to renew our self esteem but do what you can to regain back your self worth and self happiness. Ask for help if you can't handle it alone and you'll be surprised to see how many people out there are willing to help us. But first, try to let go and help yourself. Trust me, it will get better. You deserve the respect.
I know I have never been in their position and it will be too easy for an outsider to simply tell such women to get out of their shaky marriage. If it is not physical abuse, it is emotional abuse and to me, both are just as bad. Everyone deserves a second chance and as hard as it is to forgive someone who torments us like we're just a piece of meat, it is harder to accept how one can change into a completely different person. But if it is always the case of torturing and then coming back like a lovelorn puppy begging to be picked up and to be loved again and again, what happiness are you giving yourself? Do we have to act like nothing happened? As modernised as we call ourselves that women have the capabilities to do the job that supposedly only men can do, we should applaud ourselves on that. The world will never be fair and men and women can never be equal because each has their own strengths and weaknesses. It is just a matter of trying to live in peace with one another and by making peace, it does not mean that we always have to conform to what the other person has to say. So he does shower you with all the love and he can be the perfect husband or the perfect father when he is not bashing you up. Then when he does bash you up or call you names, is that part of a husband's responsibility to the wife? What if the children witness all of this and then what do you say to them? That it is okay for the husband to treat the wife like that because it is his responsibility? What are you trying to teach them? And what if, they reciprocate that when they have their own families because mummy said it is okay?
Come on people, if you can rise above everybody to be successful in your career, you don't need some scumbag to treat you like dirt just so that you have someone to love you. If he truly loves you, he won't hurt you. It's just so sick and so inhuman. We're not some punching bag and if he is earning lower than us or having a business that is not doing so well and causing him stress, he should do something about it. We should not feel sorry for him just because he is unable to rise above the rest. Do you really want a husband who blames you for everything because of his bruised ego that cannot be nursed back because he refuses to help himself? We can help him in whatever we can but just don't be a victim here. The society may seem cruel to women divorcees because they think we bring these up upon ourselves just because they dont see the full picture and whatever it is, we are not at fault. Sometimes things don't work out doesn't mean we're failures. We just have to get up and show these people, who probably have nothing better to do than poke into people's business, that we are survivors.
We women, whether young or old, must stay united because it is not easy leading our lives as there so many responsibilities that we have to carry. Thats what makes us special because even though we have to work extra hard to show the men that we can earn just as much or even more than them, ultimately we're doing it for ourselves. We're not doing it because we want to show the men whose boss so why do some women still think that we cannot survive without men. Yes, we cannot completely ignore the opposite sex because they are still God's creations and the important thing is that we have to live in harmony together. But not all treat us with respect so don't be a victim to them. Sure they can be so lovey dovey at first but if they got bored with us halfway, it still doesn't give them the priviledge to treat us like dirt.
Come on, stop blaming on yourself and then destroy yourself slowly. Pick yourself up and bring up the courage in you to try and move on and build a better life. It is not easy to let go of the past and then we have to learn to renew our self esteem but do what you can to regain back your self worth and self happiness. Ask for help if you can't handle it alone and you'll be surprised to see how many people out there are willing to help us. But first, try to let go and help yourself. Trust me, it will get better. You deserve the respect.
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