Snag a Guy
Okay I wished the title of my post would be snagGED a guy rather than waiting to snag a guy. Hrm, as I have famously wrote in my entries, I'd rather die a single. No wait, I didn't write tat. Tsk, yes rahayu is so desperate that even the guy who worked as a pharmacist, I assumed, at the counter opposite my clinic at the polyclinic is labelled a 'hottie'. I mean..pfft...if he's just a stranger walking past me, say..by the bus stop..he would probably be destined to be just one of the guys whom I have no interest whatsover to get to know more. Like duh...I don't dig tall guys. k, so Im one of those girls wanting to be different from others or I just so happened to have a taste that doesn't equate to most girls such as 'tall, dark and handsome'. Gawd..whats wrong with me?!!! why can't i be like the previous times when not just any guy would make my radars go crazy by making me do a double take and then shoot me right to heaven? I mean, okay...he is handsome. He looks like one of those typical scholars with his be-spectacled looks and floppy fringe like the guy in a japanese comic who have cute girls flocking around them like they're some intellectual creatures or something. No, make it cute girls in school uniforms but me? I look like an older sister to him looking out from afar if those girls are trying to be funny with him. Yes I know it's just all in my head that he's merely working with a few girls in work uniform inter-changing in shifts to dispense the medicine or advice (actually I don't know exactly what his role is..except he talked to the patients at random at the counter). Eurgh..why can't I like a guy who doesn't look plain typical and ordinary looking...just like the doctor at my dad's hospital..Oh.SO.CuTe. So cute that Im reduced to a teenage girl who can't stop grinning to herself like she just saw her favourite member of a boyband infront of her freakin' face.
Oh talking about boybands, do you know that Take That is back? GAH! I forgot my past already so why the heck is the band still coming back and torturing me in the form of an already defunct band?! Which part of 'defunct' don't they know? According to rahayu's dictionary, 'defunct' means 'Kapoot!'..'No longer in history'..'Gone!'..'Vamoosh!'. Come on people..work with me here...boybands? They're passe. Hot male TV stars like Wentworth Miller from Prisonbreak and Josh Duhamel of Las Vegas are in. Even Tom Cruise can't stand on the same ground as them even with the glitzy wedding with 'no one gives a damn about' Kathie Holmes as a bride who is just smiling in all her pictures because her dream to marry the biggest loser has come true. And my fren is into Ryan of CSI:Miami. Can I just drop a bomb on her that the guy used to have a girlfriend before he joined CSI and that the new girlfriend happened to be me? WELL...I don't want to ruin the friendship. YEt.
Actually, I read this article recently..okay, make it yesterday, which made me smile and cheering for her because she was just so courageous. Once in awhile, we need to grab the man by the collar and say 'you want me or not?!!' No wait, that will scare away people. .not just guys. The jist of the story revolved around her trying to snag or grab a guy for a date after being dateless for a year. She armed herself with lots of advice till she just couldn't make the heads or tails and just went ahead and try to make the best of the situation. In one piece.
Well, I could just imagine the butterflies in her stomach trying to figure out what the hell they were doing in the stomach. But one advice she heard and tried to do (but failed) was to make a lingering eye contact. That meant when you fancied someone you like, say..in a party or a club, then make lingering eye contact and then look away. If you don't understand that, it is the same as you spotting a hottie from 200m away and then let your eyes rest on him until he has this nagging feeling that someone is staring at him. When he turned to find and catch you looking at him, look away! But smile sheepishly because you almost caught the goat.
Then, if that failed like for example the dufus forgot to bring his glasses, then go up to him if he's alone and just make a small itsy bitsy talk like 'nice biceps'. That's rahayu's lame pick up line or you can find a source of distraction like a plate of yummy brownies or food and then go up slowly to him like you just happened to walk towards his direction and then stopping for some fresh air a.k.a his scented cologne. After that, maybe make a small harmless comment like 'yum, nice brownies. Did you try it?' DO NOT be tempted to say 'nice biceps' even if you are dying to just pinch them especially when they're so gawd damn near you. If he's a friendly chap who is open for a conversation, he may reply back but beware, he may not talk as much because come on, he's just as jittery as you and he doesn't even have a plate of brownies for distraction. Well, in order to prep yourselves for awkward moments, another tip I picked up from another magazine is that you should at least skim through the papers and then read a bit about the current hot topics like the 7% increase in gst tax and the upcoming 2.2 bonus (woohoo!). Or at least be aware of the going ons in the party so there are stuffs you can talk about like great music..you've always liked the band then maybe ask him what kind of music he's into. By the way, I think music and television are good topics if you're too lazy to read the papers or have no time.
So, after awhile I think you may just want to try your luck in getting his handphone number. The writer of the article did just that by using a common interest and maybe one day they can just check out some new clubbing venue which is opening in the next few days. Okay I don't quite remember what common interest they had but it is along that line. So he agreed and they exchanged numbers. Ka-Ching!
Yes, the nerve wrecking moments: the call. It's either you or him but if you're dying to contact him and then starting to hallucinate, girl you better call him! And the best thing to do is just to sms and then wait like crazy for his reply of which the writer did just that with a simple 'hows your day been?' If the guy remembers you, then good for you! If he doesn't, he probably suffered a short term memory loss or he had too many numbers that night. If he does, once again, good for you! If the conversation which you had with him was good, chances are he will keep up the same 'tempo' and may start to open up to you a bit more. But whatever you do, don't be too 'personal' by letting him know, for example, how many ex-es you have or how sucky your life is. Everyday. Perhaps you can say that your boss is killing you a bit with his notorious habit of giving you an impossible deadline which you have to die die adhere with. maybe it's time to relax a bit and then suggest if he wants to join you for coffee on a casual day. Girl, you've got it going on here!
Oh, date time! If your date is days ahead, make ample time to prepare for you date mentally and physically and oh, pick out your best outfit! It's gonna be fun...if only you prepare days ahead so you don't look like a mess when you meet him or worse still, be very late because you have trouble picking out the right attire. Get the opinion of a girl pal with a reasonably good taste to help you choose the right outfit. Whenever you are free, think of a few questions that can be fun or intellectual or both to inject some life into an otherwise boring date so that you won't be stuck for words. Then, list down your personality traits, your strengths and your interests because he will surely ask you questions that give him clues as to what kind of girl you are. Plus, you don't want to appear boring do you? Oh, don't give away your past love life so much and if you are having problems with a certain friend or family members, it is not a good time to let your anger and frustration out because the last thing he wants to do is to become your aunt..or in this case..uncle agony.
Put on your lively personality instead of looking like some roadkill and make sure you look like you're enjoying your time with him. Even if you don't, be nice and offer a solemn smile so that you can look pretty towards other guys who are far more interesting to him and a bloody good replacement for him in your future date. Oh..oh..can I say one more thing?! If you have body hung ups like you think your stomach too big or your thighs too big...pls lah, don't have to reveal all that during the date. Then don't worry too much over how he's judging you physically like whether he noticed how jiggly your arms are or how fat your cheeks are. If you keep worrying about that girl, you're not gonna have fun. Might as well stay at home and then write in a blog about how you bloated you feel after so much these past few days. Like me.
The important thing is that you must be at ease with yourself and not stiff that if someone pushes you with one finger, you fall flat on your behind. I think guys like girls who are sure about themselves because it is so.....sexy..kekeke...Okay, another thing? Don't go on a date with great expectations like how you forsee him as your potential boyfriend and then as the night goes by with him, you are constantly ticking in your head the mental list of 'is he Mr Right?' Girl, he is just one of the potentials and therefore, you should give him your full attention especially when he talks because hey, you'll never know if he's thinking whether you may be a potential girlfriend for him. Wow....and besides, everyone likes to be heard whether or not you agree with their viewpoint or not. Offer him your viewpoint and if it is going to be an opposing one, tell him you respect his point of view and it does make sense but to you, you think that...yadah yadah...instead of snubbing him because you don't agree with him.
Then, how to turn up a notch in this date to maybe score you a second date? Compliment him girl! NOW is the time to say how well defined his biceps look like and don't just stop there. You ask him if he has been working out and whereabout he goes. It's probably his pet subject so go easy on him and let him do the talking while you just mesmerize yourself with the twinkle in his eye as he talks about how many weights he can lift before he calls it a day at the gym. Then you talk about your pet subject or main interest because hello? This date is a two way traffic and don't let him talk on and on..But..BUT..if he asks you personally about what you like doing, then wowza, at least he's not too caught up with his ownself.
Flirting techniques..heh heh..Okay listen up! Enough with the talking. Try to turn up the heat a bit by doing these simple techniques. Casually brush your finger against your lip like you are trying to remove a smudge gently off your lips to divert his eyes towards them and see how supple your lips are. Wearing something that is a bit low cut? Imagine that your top has kinda drooped down a bit and you casually but gently pull up the middle of your blouse near your cleavage and then doing a quick one or two swipes across your chest while looking down as if you are brushing off some crumbs to divert the attention to the woohoos. Then, as the conversation turns a bit lively like you're teasing each other about some jokes or what, laugh about it while touching his arm casually or holding on to it just like you're just chilling with your ol' buddy and then you two are sharing a casual joke. Another technique I can think of is..erm..tucking your hair behind your ears gently and he may be wondering how nice to nibble on them. Okay dirty thought! But hey, Im talking from a guys perspective and im not saying I'd like them to be nibbled..ouch.
So girl, all it takes is for you to sum up the courage in you and if he rejected you once, don't fret! He's the goon..not you! Or if he seems interested but is taking slow steps like he's being extra careful, don't fret either. He's just being careful because sometimes we don't know if he just had a painful break up or you're just too good to be true for him and he's afraid he won't be a good boyfriend to you. Whatever it is, don't read too much into his thoughts. Concentrate on building up your character and make yourself more appealing so he has no regrets in wanting to get to know you more.
NOw, is time to give yourself a deadline and start finding a target. WHy deadline? Because it forces you to take actions or risk running out of time and being dateless again. Like yours truly. Oh, and it also takes you out of misery of constantly thinking whats wrong with you that no guys ever asked you out. It's not that. Sometimes guys can be just as nervous as we are because we're hot babes which equates to being too hot to handle and they don't know if they are up to that. Or you can do the next thing. Take part in Romancing Singapore where you go on a 'thrilling' speed date. That should be fun. Yawns..
Oh talking about boybands, do you know that Take That is back? GAH! I forgot my past already so why the heck is the band still coming back and torturing me in the form of an already defunct band?! Which part of 'defunct' don't they know? According to rahayu's dictionary, 'defunct' means 'Kapoot!'..'No longer in history'..'Gone!'..'Vamoosh!'. Come on people..work with me here...boybands? They're passe. Hot male TV stars like Wentworth Miller from Prisonbreak and Josh Duhamel of Las Vegas are in. Even Tom Cruise can't stand on the same ground as them even with the glitzy wedding with 'no one gives a damn about' Kathie Holmes as a bride who is just smiling in all her pictures because her dream to marry the biggest loser has come true. And my fren is into Ryan of CSI:Miami. Can I just drop a bomb on her that the guy used to have a girlfriend before he joined CSI and that the new girlfriend happened to be me? WELL...I don't want to ruin the friendship. YEt.
Actually, I read this article recently..okay, make it yesterday, which made me smile and cheering for her because she was just so courageous. Once in awhile, we need to grab the man by the collar and say 'you want me or not?!!' No wait, that will scare away people. .not just guys. The jist of the story revolved around her trying to snag or grab a guy for a date after being dateless for a year. She armed herself with lots of advice till she just couldn't make the heads or tails and just went ahead and try to make the best of the situation. In one piece.
Well, I could just imagine the butterflies in her stomach trying to figure out what the hell they were doing in the stomach. But one advice she heard and tried to do (but failed) was to make a lingering eye contact. That meant when you fancied someone you like, say..in a party or a club, then make lingering eye contact and then look away. If you don't understand that, it is the same as you spotting a hottie from 200m away and then let your eyes rest on him until he has this nagging feeling that someone is staring at him. When he turned to find and catch you looking at him, look away! But smile sheepishly because you almost caught the goat.
Then, if that failed like for example the dufus forgot to bring his glasses, then go up to him if he's alone and just make a small itsy bitsy talk like 'nice biceps'. That's rahayu's lame pick up line or you can find a source of distraction like a plate of yummy brownies or food and then go up slowly to him like you just happened to walk towards his direction and then stopping for some fresh air a.k.a his scented cologne. After that, maybe make a small harmless comment like 'yum, nice brownies. Did you try it?' DO NOT be tempted to say 'nice biceps' even if you are dying to just pinch them especially when they're so gawd damn near you. If he's a friendly chap who is open for a conversation, he may reply back but beware, he may not talk as much because come on, he's just as jittery as you and he doesn't even have a plate of brownies for distraction. Well, in order to prep yourselves for awkward moments, another tip I picked up from another magazine is that you should at least skim through the papers and then read a bit about the current hot topics like the 7% increase in gst tax and the upcoming 2.2 bonus (woohoo!). Or at least be aware of the going ons in the party so there are stuffs you can talk about like great music..you've always liked the band then maybe ask him what kind of music he's into. By the way, I think music and television are good topics if you're too lazy to read the papers or have no time.
So, after awhile I think you may just want to try your luck in getting his handphone number. The writer of the article did just that by using a common interest and maybe one day they can just check out some new clubbing venue which is opening in the next few days. Okay I don't quite remember what common interest they had but it is along that line. So he agreed and they exchanged numbers. Ka-Ching!
Yes, the nerve wrecking moments: the call. It's either you or him but if you're dying to contact him and then starting to hallucinate, girl you better call him! And the best thing to do is just to sms and then wait like crazy for his reply of which the writer did just that with a simple 'hows your day been?' If the guy remembers you, then good for you! If he doesn't, he probably suffered a short term memory loss or he had too many numbers that night. If he does, once again, good for you! If the conversation which you had with him was good, chances are he will keep up the same 'tempo' and may start to open up to you a bit more. But whatever you do, don't be too 'personal' by letting him know, for example, how many ex-es you have or how sucky your life is. Everyday. Perhaps you can say that your boss is killing you a bit with his notorious habit of giving you an impossible deadline which you have to die die adhere with. maybe it's time to relax a bit and then suggest if he wants to join you for coffee on a casual day. Girl, you've got it going on here!
Oh, date time! If your date is days ahead, make ample time to prepare for you date mentally and physically and oh, pick out your best outfit! It's gonna be fun...if only you prepare days ahead so you don't look like a mess when you meet him or worse still, be very late because you have trouble picking out the right attire. Get the opinion of a girl pal with a reasonably good taste to help you choose the right outfit. Whenever you are free, think of a few questions that can be fun or intellectual or both to inject some life into an otherwise boring date so that you won't be stuck for words. Then, list down your personality traits, your strengths and your interests because he will surely ask you questions that give him clues as to what kind of girl you are. Plus, you don't want to appear boring do you? Oh, don't give away your past love life so much and if you are having problems with a certain friend or family members, it is not a good time to let your anger and frustration out because the last thing he wants to do is to become your aunt..or in this case..uncle agony.
Put on your lively personality instead of looking like some roadkill and make sure you look like you're enjoying your time with him. Even if you don't, be nice and offer a solemn smile so that you can look pretty towards other guys who are far more interesting to him and a bloody good replacement for him in your future date. Oh..oh..can I say one more thing?! If you have body hung ups like you think your stomach too big or your thighs too big...pls lah, don't have to reveal all that during the date. Then don't worry too much over how he's judging you physically like whether he noticed how jiggly your arms are or how fat your cheeks are. If you keep worrying about that girl, you're not gonna have fun. Might as well stay at home and then write in a blog about how you bloated you feel after so much these past few days. Like me.
The important thing is that you must be at ease with yourself and not stiff that if someone pushes you with one finger, you fall flat on your behind. I think guys like girls who are sure about themselves because it is so.....sexy..kekeke...Okay, another thing? Don't go on a date with great expectations like how you forsee him as your potential boyfriend and then as the night goes by with him, you are constantly ticking in your head the mental list of 'is he Mr Right?' Girl, he is just one of the potentials and therefore, you should give him your full attention especially when he talks because hey, you'll never know if he's thinking whether you may be a potential girlfriend for him. Wow....and besides, everyone likes to be heard whether or not you agree with their viewpoint or not. Offer him your viewpoint and if it is going to be an opposing one, tell him you respect his point of view and it does make sense but to you, you think that...yadah yadah...instead of snubbing him because you don't agree with him.
Then, how to turn up a notch in this date to maybe score you a second date? Compliment him girl! NOW is the time to say how well defined his biceps look like and don't just stop there. You ask him if he has been working out and whereabout he goes. It's probably his pet subject so go easy on him and let him do the talking while you just mesmerize yourself with the twinkle in his eye as he talks about how many weights he can lift before he calls it a day at the gym. Then you talk about your pet subject or main interest because hello? This date is a two way traffic and don't let him talk on and on..But..BUT..if he asks you personally about what you like doing, then wowza, at least he's not too caught up with his ownself.
Flirting techniques..heh heh..Okay listen up! Enough with the talking. Try to turn up the heat a bit by doing these simple techniques. Casually brush your finger against your lip like you are trying to remove a smudge gently off your lips to divert his eyes towards them and see how supple your lips are. Wearing something that is a bit low cut? Imagine that your top has kinda drooped down a bit and you casually but gently pull up the middle of your blouse near your cleavage and then doing a quick one or two swipes across your chest while looking down as if you are brushing off some crumbs to divert the attention to the woohoos. Then, as the conversation turns a bit lively like you're teasing each other about some jokes or what, laugh about it while touching his arm casually or holding on to it just like you're just chilling with your ol' buddy and then you two are sharing a casual joke. Another technique I can think of is..erm..tucking your hair behind your ears gently and he may be wondering how nice to nibble on them. Okay dirty thought! But hey, Im talking from a guys perspective and im not saying I'd like them to be nibbled..ouch.
So girl, all it takes is for you to sum up the courage in you and if he rejected you once, don't fret! He's the goon..not you! Or if he seems interested but is taking slow steps like he's being extra careful, don't fret either. He's just being careful because sometimes we don't know if he just had a painful break up or you're just too good to be true for him and he's afraid he won't be a good boyfriend to you. Whatever it is, don't read too much into his thoughts. Concentrate on building up your character and make yourself more appealing so he has no regrets in wanting to get to know you more.
NOw, is time to give yourself a deadline and start finding a target. WHy deadline? Because it forces you to take actions or risk running out of time and being dateless again. Like yours truly. Oh, and it also takes you out of misery of constantly thinking whats wrong with you that no guys ever asked you out. It's not that. Sometimes guys can be just as nervous as we are because we're hot babes which equates to being too hot to handle and they don't know if they are up to that. Or you can do the next thing. Take part in Romancing Singapore where you go on a 'thrilling' speed date. That should be fun. Yawns..
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