It hurts...it hurts so bad to love someone so much that you're willing to forgive him many times, hiding the truth from others, to be mentally challenged seeing him happy with another person but his heart is actually with you and to believe in every..single..word he says...until one day, he breaks your heart and you're left with an empty void in your life.
When we're seeing a relationship from an outsiders point of view, we may not take it too kindly towards someone who has a heart for another person already in a relationship. But let's just put ourselves in this so called third parties' shoes. They may try to avoid the situation coz it is very tricky and very complicated that a big pile of mess is highly likely to form if the situation goes wrong. Most often, the ending is not that good and everyone whether first, second or third party will be left a wreck. Feelings of guilt, lost love, broken trust....the emotions are raw and painful. So painful that even big boys can cry. Girls you dont have to say...we're emotionally charged but for a guy to cry, it takes a heck lot of pain and feelings of rejection to put aside their manhood and let emotions take the better of them. No words of comfort can overcome a broken heart and one does not need to be told that it will be okay or it will be over. One just needs to have a shoulder to cry on. How long it takes to mend that broken heart, only time can tell but still, fragments of the broken pieces will be left behind and it will never heal.
However, we can most certainly learn from it. We learn that hiding our admiration for someone may not be such a good idea if we wait too long, his heart may belong to someone else instead. We also learn that keeping one away from the truth for too long especially if he has his complete trust in us, is not such a good thing especially if the truth creeps out in the most unpleasant manner. But most importantly, we turn them into life lessons and by then, we will already know if we're in the same level playing field or we're putting ourselves in danger where it will be high time to make a quick exit before things start to get ugly.
But.....
what if the idea of loving someone and then meeting someone else while in the process of being 'in love' who may very well be our soul mate, how do we try to handle this delicately? Are we able to get rid of the black sheep standing in the way of two beating hearts or are we the black sheep itself..or worse....a wolf preying on its victim?
thank goodness I dont have such drama in my life now..haha..okay sorry..supposed to act sad.
When we're seeing a relationship from an outsiders point of view, we may not take it too kindly towards someone who has a heart for another person already in a relationship. But let's just put ourselves in this so called third parties' shoes. They may try to avoid the situation coz it is very tricky and very complicated that a big pile of mess is highly likely to form if the situation goes wrong. Most often, the ending is not that good and everyone whether first, second or third party will be left a wreck. Feelings of guilt, lost love, broken trust....the emotions are raw and painful. So painful that even big boys can cry. Girls you dont have to say...we're emotionally charged but for a guy to cry, it takes a heck lot of pain and feelings of rejection to put aside their manhood and let emotions take the better of them. No words of comfort can overcome a broken heart and one does not need to be told that it will be okay or it will be over. One just needs to have a shoulder to cry on. How long it takes to mend that broken heart, only time can tell but still, fragments of the broken pieces will be left behind and it will never heal.
However, we can most certainly learn from it. We learn that hiding our admiration for someone may not be such a good idea if we wait too long, his heart may belong to someone else instead. We also learn that keeping one away from the truth for too long especially if he has his complete trust in us, is not such a good thing especially if the truth creeps out in the most unpleasant manner. But most importantly, we turn them into life lessons and by then, we will already know if we're in the same level playing field or we're putting ourselves in danger where it will be high time to make a quick exit before things start to get ugly.
But.....
what if the idea of loving someone and then meeting someone else while in the process of being 'in love' who may very well be our soul mate, how do we try to handle this delicately? Are we able to get rid of the black sheep standing in the way of two beating hearts or are we the black sheep itself..or worse....a wolf preying on its victim?
thank goodness I dont have such drama in my life now..haha..okay sorry..supposed to act sad.
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