I always advocate this if u notice in my blog but seriously, it pays to think first before words roll out of ur tongue. A friendship lost isnt worth it, is it?
I've been in such a situation before. Many years ago, I was called an outcast which was meant as a joke when we had these imaginary clubs. Sure, no harm done but if it was used on you over and over again..by the same people, it kinda got me hard that I truly felt like an outcast. No thanks to the fact that I transfered to another class coz I didnt do too well in the previous year.
I was naive then but now I dont let words that hurt get to me easily. I would try the self defence way if I feel that it's a poor way of judging me. But hey if they refuse to budger or listen, I try not to get upset over it. No matter what, my heart's fragile...heh....but I recover pretty fast. At most I try to have lesser conversations with such pple because nobody deserves to feel inferior because of other people's actions.