Skip to main content

Being Miss Irresistible

Yay, I will be posting many awesome posts shortly. I received my healthy performance bonus (well..healthy..as compared to previous years) and while I've saved up most of them for my upcoming studies in October, I managed to get me some new stuffs including craft materials for my online shop and  my scrapbooking hobby and of course, make up items for my other hobby..haha. Fine, it's not really a hobby but more like a personal interest. I believe as women, we must always look good and whether or not you like to be completely dolled up, partially dolled up...the point is, sometimes you need a little bit more help to make you look even better than you are right now.

Yes, enough of justification.

 Early this week, I finally got myself the book by Marie Forleo called Make Every Man Want You (How to Be So Irresistible You'll Barely Keep from Dating Yourself!)..phewh..the title is so long I have to google it to the words right. Before I got the book, I have actually been following her videos in you tube and she provides nuggets of wisdom relating to women's personal and business life. So inspirational. 

I was of course excited when I found out online that the book is available at the nearest library! Yay! I also discovered I could actually find out the availability of books right here at home on the internet without going physically down to the library yet to do a search. Yes, after all this time, I'm still clueless about our local libraries coming from someone who doesn't read much.

The book looks very well read and even in the inside pages, someone wrote notes in pencil like she's studying for some test. Not good..because in the first place, this book does not belong to you. I am reading it halfway though...so will do a good review once I'm done with the book.

But so far, how do I find it? Very insightful. While she sticks to her very long title, she did mention in one of her videos that the title is meant to 'trick' women because the book is much more about making guys fall for you. I, sadly, don't have that magic touch but actually, the whole point of me reading that book is not because I want guys to want me even though that will be great...*lol* I just want some help in terms of my own personal development. 

I read about being irresistible and how you must actually throw out that checklist for the perfect guy and keep your options open such as basically being open to the fun aspects of dating. While I do not have a checklist, since I can hardly keep to my own to do list, I do fear the aspects of dating and I have this natural instinct to go into this fear mode if someone I don't know tries to talk to me. But I have learn, not through this book though, to relax and just calmly answer and don't panic easily. I find that people are not as bad as I think they seem. It's not about trying so hard to impress people but being a good listener because they will appreciate it greatly.

Being irresistible is also about to be in the moment like I know I have become a little more pudgy round the waistline and instead of beating myself up, I do something about it. It's about taking action and if there is no way I can reduce my waistline, well...then there are other physical aspects about me that I can embrace. 

She also mentioned that we don't get men falling at our feet because of the hang ups we have. It's time to let go of statements such as I'm not pretty enough, I'm bad at relationships, I'm too fat..basically things I've said personally to myself. But looking at the recent couples I've come across in the malls for instance, one chubbier girl holding hands with a skinny guy and I think that the guy is so sweet to want to be seen publicly with her because people being people, they will of course notice pretty much like me. But instead of giving the stinky look, I think he's being sweet because some chubby girls like me will not stand a chance and such guys go against the type. You know what type..the ones constantly portrayed by the media to be of certain looks.

So while at this moment, I am not looking for a relationship yet but who I am to stop something if it is going to be a good one such as just letting nature take its course. It will also open up to me making more new friends. Even if I don't have every man want me, which is actually quite a scary thought, at the end of it, I just wan to be Miss Irresistible not just to men but to everybody just like one of my friends. She is so irresistible with her kindness and her friendliness, she has many friends for keeps, friends from even back then from secondary school whom she recently went on an overseas trips with. I don't have to look so far across the ocean to be inspired. I just have to be inspired by her :)

Visit my online store http://www.facebook.com/mylittlecardshop

Comments

Popular posts from this blog

One Step at A Time

Hello there It has been a while, right? I used to treat this blog as a place for me to rant, talk about nonsensical things and interests that, when I think back about it, were pretty cringeworthy. But it was part of the process of me growing up and navigating through my life which is full of ups and downs, just like the tidal waves. I still need a form of outlet to write out my thoughts and I have been journaling for the last few years. At first, I was still writing nonsense, or simply writing about how my day went, but I try to make it a more conscious journalling where I will write about things that I can take lessons from or to reflect on. So how has life been for me? Well, I no longer am running an online shop where I used to do customised cards and then just specializing in box cards. I do want to have an online business, preferably one I don't have to travel to meet people.  If you read my last post about being zen, I think I have 'tripled' the amount of zen inside of...

Listen to Me

It kinda irks me when I am trying to express an opinion or sharing a piece of knowledge but it's met with strong objection or Im being cut half way before I even finished. I mean...come on...does it hurt to actually listen first, doesnt matter if u agree or not? Yes I know everyone is entitled to their own opinions but it's frustrating because I feel like a sore loser. That sort of conversation is actually begging to be turned into some huge argument if I am equally annoying and equally strong headed as well. But I dont want to do that especially if they are my friends. Then again, I am subjected to being called a wimp or somebody who cant stand up strong against what she believes in or her own opinions. That will sorta give the person a sense of pride for getting a landslide victory. At first I used to think that hey, maybe the person has a point and I am wrong. But come to think of it, that's bull! It's one thing not to argue and another thing to let ur own opinions b...

Not Gone from Good

Life hasn't been good lately especially in the last two weeks. The latest news is that it seems that almost everyone has an increase in their pay due to changes in the civil servant wage scale and very unfortunately, my group didn't get it. So my boss, whose post is that of a manager and the operations manager, have quite a significant salary rise.  I heard she got a 10% pay rise. 10%!!! look, even the attendants got a pay rise. What we got? nada! zilch! Why? Because apparently our salary is of a competitive range. Sigh, such is the unfairness of life. I'm already struggling as it is and then apparently now, the rich has become richer. The poor remains nothing but a destitute mess. So I guess the only chance for a pay rise is for me to be promoted and though I do not know how much pay rise will that be, at least it is going to be slightly better. The problem is that I have no clue when I will get promoted. I am not one of those people with many super ideas that will great...