hey...
sometimes I dont understand why people let their jealousy seeps through and u have done nothing against them..just that they're not quite happy with what you have and they turn it against u. Dont understand? let me give u a situation. U were just hanging out some shopping centre for fun...no intentions of buying but happened to be there was a sale going on and u saw this blouse for like...9.90 onlie. And ur colleague called u and happened to catch u at a time when u're shoppin but u didn't let her know exactly what u bought but simply joked that u were just catching on with the chinese new year celebrations..keke.
then u went to office the next day and she was full of envy and she asked if the blouse u were wearing was the blouse from the 'shopping' yesterday. It was and u casually said nice ah...then ok..so ur colleague was like telling the other colleague how she caught u shopping when she made a call. So it was no big deal, right?
But it was when...ok...let me put this way. Let me put it in my perespective coz it affects me more than the day she told that colleague I went shopping. Okay, so fine....she brought this matter up again in the train but with another colleague and she opened the topic by saying that how some people..that's me....was still 'wet' while other people like her are almost dry. It was like saying shes running dry of money while I can still afford to shop. And since me and her loves to just joke around, so naturally I said that narh..Im just taking advantage of the post chinese new year sales...coz prices can really drop and when else can shop if not during these times just like both the pre and post christmas and new year sales. For me, I have the advantage of a little bit of extra income last month but i dont go around telling people that. Im sure most of us still have some bonus from the previous month but I also got income from another source too. And being someone who has been very cautious of money..and also one who has been 'slobbering' with saliva when I look at some really good bargains but too scared to spend money..if I have been given such opportunity, why would i turn it down. Still, I dont go around shopping and shopping..till i drop. I still am cautious over the price tags and onlie if i think it's worth the price..like a hefty 50 percent discount or what..then I'll get it. And right now...I sorta need a new wardrobe coz the clothes I have previously have gone a little bit on me so i need a wardrobe change.
And my mum too has been kind enough to buy nice clothes for her...coz she pities her coming from a family with four children and that how her family is quite tied down with some problems like health problems. She also pities her because her husband was ill recently and couldnt go to work and having worked with our company for 6 months, she didnt get as much bonus as us and her husband, despite working for the compan for a long time, didn't get bonus either. So naturally, my mum..knows what a nice lady she is and just does her bit to help her by buying a bit of clothes for her and giving some hari raya haji token money for her children. All this coz of the extra income.
What I cannot take..is how she turned the story around..like okay, i know we like to talk casually and between me and her, we dont take things to heart. But it doesnt mean that I dont have any feelings if u say things that somewhat..make a mockery out of me whether she has intended or not.
She said to the other colleague..a second one i might add..like after how shes dry on money where else I am not and me explaining about the current sales....said that for her, if she dont buy it's okay......at the very least, she got to touch, feel it...and that's enough already..she dont need to physically buy it...because shes cautious about money. Like what? I AM NOT?!!
You know what? That hurts me like a wham! I mean..hey..u wanna tell me...im fine with it. But Im not fine when u go around telling people this little 'shopping spree' of mine. I work hard for the money...and I have gone months without shopping because Im so darn cautious over my money as most of it, I need to save it for my transport. I do pay my bills, the minute I get my pay and saving some money for the month. Im sure if she has some extra money to spend after saving, she will spend it right? I doubt she's living a life as a hermit? When her children go to a top notch tuition centre..I didnt question her....like why she sends them to that centre when shes quite hard pressed with money? I know that she wants the best for her children...and I do think thats the main reason why she sends them there. Im sure some things are meant to be personal...and what I buy.....is non of anyone's business. Not even if that blouse is like 8.90 onlie. Not even if the mango blouses that I have been buying are of lower prices than ones at the outlets. I dont go around also.....telling people how this is new..how this cheap....what I buy are of my business unless u think it's nice and u wanna know where I buy...if not, I'll just keep to myself. I know how sensitive the issue can be especially if I seem to be having new things..while people are stuck with the same bag or have to be extra thrifty with money for some reasons.
So thats why I felt offended when she puts it across to people like how I keep taking advantage of the sales where else for her, sales or not, she still wont just spend her money any-o-how. And to add fuel to fire, she said that she nearly had to physically touch it..feel it....and not buying...and thats more than sufficient for her. For me, I see it as merely jealousy..offended yes..guilty yes....but come to think of it, yeah..it's my business. And to think earlier that day, I gave her a blouse which my mum had bought from her usual fav boutique which is quite pricey..with the same income...that I used to buy the green blouse last tuesday. here we are taking pity on her......and there she is.....making a big hoo-ha over my shopping. Gawd........
Usually, I dont think too much about things like that....but I dont like people to bring up the same issue..over and over again when here we are, taking pity on them and helping where we can..onlie to be passed on with some remarks hinting of jealousy and sarcasm. I think she should keep fruitless comments to herself....dont keep passing remarks to people..often opening the conversation by pleading the person not to be offended.
Sure sometimes people appreciate honest remarks that can help them especially if they're unaware about it. Like how my colleagues had previously commented that the blouse that day was too big....BUT when I wore the blouse yesterday, it was better coz it fit me well. Also, how I dont suit short bobs because it makes me look chubbier. And they passed on these comments when we happened to be talking about the topic and I commented about the blouse I wore yesterday whether it was better than this one or not. Not just pass any comments blindly.....and then hoping the person wont get offended by them. What u expect us to do....grin widely while inside, we're fuming mad?
Be realistic lah. Maybe now it's my turn experience life as a shopper...maybe next time is her turn? DOnt get jealous easily....it wont do u any good, man. It can onlie turn a relationship or friendship sour. SOmetimes, we are in the same boat simply because we keep on complaining and complaining about how some other people have speed boats while we dont. Do you think that can change the situation? Im not going to be sarcastic to her in return. I guess maybe she didnt think twice when she passed the comments to two different colleagues. I'll let her off the hook. Sometimes we dont mean to hurt somebody intentionally.
Unlike SOME people who purposely gave me a dirty look when another colleague remarked I got this job through my father's friends' wife recommendations. But she's not paying me. I dont even know who she was. All she wanted was to help my father..since I had been jobless for six months. How much pay I get isn't determined by her although the way that colleague puts it, she says like..oh..no wonder my pay is so much higher than her. Like hello...I got a better educational background than her..but since I dont have experience like her..I dont go around showing off that little advantage I have over them. Say lah what they want to say...they still dont have the authority to chase me out of my job.
Wateva lah. Sometimes people just dont know when to keep their mouth shut. My mum, who has been paying the things she bought for that lady colleague of mine so I just thought she should know how wrecked I felt when she said such things. She said no wonder she's still stuck in the same boat because of her big mouth. She wont go anywhere if she keeps on being sarcastic about other people just because we are a little bit more advantaged than her. Things will onlie turn for the better if we change our perceptions about life and who knows..God will see the 'goodness' in us and reward us like how sometimes we help people and then in return, we do see rewards. But we dont do things out of our need to get such rewards. We do it simply because we wanna help. Oh well...we cant put a sock in people's mouth can we?
sometimes I dont understand why people let their jealousy seeps through and u have done nothing against them..just that they're not quite happy with what you have and they turn it against u. Dont understand? let me give u a situation. U were just hanging out some shopping centre for fun...no intentions of buying but happened to be there was a sale going on and u saw this blouse for like...9.90 onlie. And ur colleague called u and happened to catch u at a time when u're shoppin but u didn't let her know exactly what u bought but simply joked that u were just catching on with the chinese new year celebrations..keke.
then u went to office the next day and she was full of envy and she asked if the blouse u were wearing was the blouse from the 'shopping' yesterday. It was and u casually said nice ah...then ok..so ur colleague was like telling the other colleague how she caught u shopping when she made a call. So it was no big deal, right?
But it was when...ok...let me put this way. Let me put it in my perespective coz it affects me more than the day she told that colleague I went shopping. Okay, so fine....she brought this matter up again in the train but with another colleague and she opened the topic by saying that how some people..that's me....was still 'wet' while other people like her are almost dry. It was like saying shes running dry of money while I can still afford to shop. And since me and her loves to just joke around, so naturally I said that narh..Im just taking advantage of the post chinese new year sales...coz prices can really drop and when else can shop if not during these times just like both the pre and post christmas and new year sales. For me, I have the advantage of a little bit of extra income last month but i dont go around telling people that. Im sure most of us still have some bonus from the previous month but I also got income from another source too. And being someone who has been very cautious of money..and also one who has been 'slobbering' with saliva when I look at some really good bargains but too scared to spend money..if I have been given such opportunity, why would i turn it down. Still, I dont go around shopping and shopping..till i drop. I still am cautious over the price tags and onlie if i think it's worth the price..like a hefty 50 percent discount or what..then I'll get it. And right now...I sorta need a new wardrobe coz the clothes I have previously have gone a little bit on me so i need a wardrobe change.
And my mum too has been kind enough to buy nice clothes for her...coz she pities her coming from a family with four children and that how her family is quite tied down with some problems like health problems. She also pities her because her husband was ill recently and couldnt go to work and having worked with our company for 6 months, she didnt get as much bonus as us and her husband, despite working for the compan for a long time, didn't get bonus either. So naturally, my mum..knows what a nice lady she is and just does her bit to help her by buying a bit of clothes for her and giving some hari raya haji token money for her children. All this coz of the extra income.
What I cannot take..is how she turned the story around..like okay, i know we like to talk casually and between me and her, we dont take things to heart. But it doesnt mean that I dont have any feelings if u say things that somewhat..make a mockery out of me whether she has intended or not.
She said to the other colleague..a second one i might add..like after how shes dry on money where else I am not and me explaining about the current sales....said that for her, if she dont buy it's okay......at the very least, she got to touch, feel it...and that's enough already..she dont need to physically buy it...because shes cautious about money. Like what? I AM NOT?!!
You know what? That hurts me like a wham! I mean..hey..u wanna tell me...im fine with it. But Im not fine when u go around telling people this little 'shopping spree' of mine. I work hard for the money...and I have gone months without shopping because Im so darn cautious over my money as most of it, I need to save it for my transport. I do pay my bills, the minute I get my pay and saving some money for the month. Im sure if she has some extra money to spend after saving, she will spend it right? I doubt she's living a life as a hermit? When her children go to a top notch tuition centre..I didnt question her....like why she sends them to that centre when shes quite hard pressed with money? I know that she wants the best for her children...and I do think thats the main reason why she sends them there. Im sure some things are meant to be personal...and what I buy.....is non of anyone's business. Not even if that blouse is like 8.90 onlie. Not even if the mango blouses that I have been buying are of lower prices than ones at the outlets. I dont go around also.....telling people how this is new..how this cheap....what I buy are of my business unless u think it's nice and u wanna know where I buy...if not, I'll just keep to myself. I know how sensitive the issue can be especially if I seem to be having new things..while people are stuck with the same bag or have to be extra thrifty with money for some reasons.
So thats why I felt offended when she puts it across to people like how I keep taking advantage of the sales where else for her, sales or not, she still wont just spend her money any-o-how. And to add fuel to fire, she said that she nearly had to physically touch it..feel it....and not buying...and thats more than sufficient for her. For me, I see it as merely jealousy..offended yes..guilty yes....but come to think of it, yeah..it's my business. And to think earlier that day, I gave her a blouse which my mum had bought from her usual fav boutique which is quite pricey..with the same income...that I used to buy the green blouse last tuesday. here we are taking pity on her......and there she is.....making a big hoo-ha over my shopping. Gawd........
Usually, I dont think too much about things like that....but I dont like people to bring up the same issue..over and over again when here we are, taking pity on them and helping where we can..onlie to be passed on with some remarks hinting of jealousy and sarcasm. I think she should keep fruitless comments to herself....dont keep passing remarks to people..often opening the conversation by pleading the person not to be offended.
Sure sometimes people appreciate honest remarks that can help them especially if they're unaware about it. Like how my colleagues had previously commented that the blouse that day was too big....BUT when I wore the blouse yesterday, it was better coz it fit me well. Also, how I dont suit short bobs because it makes me look chubbier. And they passed on these comments when we happened to be talking about the topic and I commented about the blouse I wore yesterday whether it was better than this one or not. Not just pass any comments blindly.....and then hoping the person wont get offended by them. What u expect us to do....grin widely while inside, we're fuming mad?
Be realistic lah. Maybe now it's my turn experience life as a shopper...maybe next time is her turn? DOnt get jealous easily....it wont do u any good, man. It can onlie turn a relationship or friendship sour. SOmetimes, we are in the same boat simply because we keep on complaining and complaining about how some other people have speed boats while we dont. Do you think that can change the situation? Im not going to be sarcastic to her in return. I guess maybe she didnt think twice when she passed the comments to two different colleagues. I'll let her off the hook. Sometimes we dont mean to hurt somebody intentionally.
Unlike SOME people who purposely gave me a dirty look when another colleague remarked I got this job through my father's friends' wife recommendations. But she's not paying me. I dont even know who she was. All she wanted was to help my father..since I had been jobless for six months. How much pay I get isn't determined by her although the way that colleague puts it, she says like..oh..no wonder my pay is so much higher than her. Like hello...I got a better educational background than her..but since I dont have experience like her..I dont go around showing off that little advantage I have over them. Say lah what they want to say...they still dont have the authority to chase me out of my job.
Wateva lah. Sometimes people just dont know when to keep their mouth shut. My mum, who has been paying the things she bought for that lady colleague of mine so I just thought she should know how wrecked I felt when she said such things. She said no wonder she's still stuck in the same boat because of her big mouth. She wont go anywhere if she keeps on being sarcastic about other people just because we are a little bit more advantaged than her. Things will onlie turn for the better if we change our perceptions about life and who knows..God will see the 'goodness' in us and reward us like how sometimes we help people and then in return, we do see rewards. But we dont do things out of our need to get such rewards. We do it simply because we wanna help. Oh well...we cant put a sock in people's mouth can we?
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