When Love is Toxic or Unexpected
Since last weekend, I had been watching live action manga comics. Some I watched before and watched again while there were new discoveries too though they can be a few years old already. They are in Japanese but fans have been translating them in English for international fans like me. I'm not really into every single thing because I find some are just the writer's wildest imagination ever, in a world we can only fantasise where the most handsome and popular guy or girl, falls hard in love with a mere ordinary human being that people wouldn't pay attention to anyway.
I'm sorry if this is going to bore you but I will try my best to make it a quick and relatable one to real life. In my previous post, I wrote about my little fascination with Manga and how one of them had the characters' features so darn similar to the drawings in the Manga comics. So there was this one character called Misu who was the most aloof guy and basically the IDGAF type but in the end, decided to patch things up between his nemesis (rivals in popularity) and his roommate. Today I found out that this series had 5 parts, both Manga and live action and that he was a side couple in Part 4. So basically despite his attitude, he had a love interest.
But he was bordering on being toxic and annoying like there was this Year One student fawning over him and making it so obvious but of course, he couldn't care less coz he was, well...too cool for it. But when said love interest started to erm...lose interest and avoiding him since he was being so cold about it, and made new friends along the way (one of them his roommate), he got very jealous and started asking why the avoidance and even warned not to mix with those people.
He was quite a jerk about it, like so sweet at one time and then, 'I don't like you talking to them', because you are mine. And this continued until the initial start of part 5. He was pretty possessive but also showed he didn't care, even when his roommate told him that he had no right to treat someone like that as though he owns them.
But relating this to real life, how do we move on from such toxic love? It's like he said he loves you, then couldn't care less the next moment and I can tell ya Misu is one fantastic kisser (hehe..) and charismatic but my gosh, he needed an attitude check. Deep deep deep inside him is actually someone who actually cares and can love but just that, some people don't like to show their vulnerable side, you know? They put up this hard exterior facade. And then there is his looks that is to die for and his sudden romantic gestures which makes you want to give him another chance even if he had treated you like crap, even in front of his friends.
So somehow, whether or not it comes from the comic books, I am pretty sure there are such people like that.
Maybe stories like this is a good way to attract readers' attention coz at one point in our life in school or work perhaps, we just want the attention of someone who supposedly is beyond our reach.
But I love love LOVE another Manga adaption which I discovered two days ago. This one doesn't have such toxic relationship. Again there were pretty and handsome and popular characters but this time, both the main characters were popular and good looking in their own ways. It rode on a different type of love story, taking place within a week, as one of the characters had a reputation of changing girlfriend every week, but none of the girlfriends harboured bad thoughts against him after the break up but only admiration even though the relationship only lasted a week. To these girls, it was worth it because he was such a gentleman.
The main couple decided to go out with each other out of a spur moment one Monday morning and with him keeping to his word to date anyone who asked him out in the first instance, he went along with it. At first, it was just a harmless hanging out during class breaks, at a club (they were in the same archery club) and going home together.
But unexpectedly, as the week drew to a close, they started to realise that they had slowly fallen in love with each other. HOWEVER. Yes, in caps. They did not have the courage to declare to each other and there was also some misunderstanding that the popular guy had been treating his weekly date as a game but in actual fact, it wasn't a game for him. It was just that by the end of the week, his heart couldn't fall in love with the said person...until now.
Sure there were some sweet moments that clearly showed they were falling for each other and while obviously neither didn't want this to end and was getting frustrated about it as the week came to a close. They both called each other dense at some points of the movie and I couldn't agree less, lol.
But it was all to a build up later when at 5pm sharp on Sunday, the words 'break up' was expected but in the end was not uttered because this time, he had truly fallen in love. Trust me, it was a very slow build up as I was also practically waiting for the time to change to 5pm with the stillness of the movie making me think I accidentally paused the video, lol. So finally they confessed their love to each other after so many misunderstandings and frustration including with this one strong headed and clingy girl who kept getting in between them. But they actually wanted to continue this relationship beyond this week.
Last time, I used to think that one would need quite a long period of time to get to know each other and see if they were meant to spend the rest of their lives together. But only your heart will know if he or she is the one for you, even if it takes just a week to make you realise that this is indeed love.
While Misu was involved in a toxic relationship, treating love as a play thing and at his beck and call, as for the other one, it was all about accepting someone as who they are, rather than how you want them to behave because that is simply their character. It can be a flaw to others but to you, it's just what makes them a unique and interesting individual. And if that said person, is also the same one who encourages you to be the best that you can, being supportive and willing to spend time with you, even if it's just a walk, having lunch or shopping together. To them, you are worth his or her time.
Great, I end up writing a long post on this. But you get the idea. Love is harmless and beautiful. But you must also know how to treat love with respect.
I'm sorry if this is going to bore you but I will try my best to make it a quick and relatable one to real life. In my previous post, I wrote about my little fascination with Manga and how one of them had the characters' features so darn similar to the drawings in the Manga comics. So there was this one character called Misu who was the most aloof guy and basically the IDGAF type but in the end, decided to patch things up between his nemesis (rivals in popularity) and his roommate. Today I found out that this series had 5 parts, both Manga and live action and that he was a side couple in Part 4. So basically despite his attitude, he had a love interest.
But he was bordering on being toxic and annoying like there was this Year One student fawning over him and making it so obvious but of course, he couldn't care less coz he was, well...too cool for it. But when said love interest started to erm...lose interest and avoiding him since he was being so cold about it, and made new friends along the way (one of them his roommate), he got very jealous and started asking why the avoidance and even warned not to mix with those people.
He was quite a jerk about it, like so sweet at one time and then, 'I don't like you talking to them', because you are mine. And this continued until the initial start of part 5. He was pretty possessive but also showed he didn't care, even when his roommate told him that he had no right to treat someone like that as though he owns them.
But relating this to real life, how do we move on from such toxic love? It's like he said he loves you, then couldn't care less the next moment and I can tell ya Misu is one fantastic kisser (hehe..) and charismatic but my gosh, he needed an attitude check. Deep deep deep inside him is actually someone who actually cares and can love but just that, some people don't like to show their vulnerable side, you know? They put up this hard exterior facade. And then there is his looks that is to die for and his sudden romantic gestures which makes you want to give him another chance even if he had treated you like crap, even in front of his friends.
So somehow, whether or not it comes from the comic books, I am pretty sure there are such people like that.
Maybe stories like this is a good way to attract readers' attention coz at one point in our life in school or work perhaps, we just want the attention of someone who supposedly is beyond our reach.
But I love love LOVE another Manga adaption which I discovered two days ago. This one doesn't have such toxic relationship. Again there were pretty and handsome and popular characters but this time, both the main characters were popular and good looking in their own ways. It rode on a different type of love story, taking place within a week, as one of the characters had a reputation of changing girlfriend every week, but none of the girlfriends harboured bad thoughts against him after the break up but only admiration even though the relationship only lasted a week. To these girls, it was worth it because he was such a gentleman.
The main couple decided to go out with each other out of a spur moment one Monday morning and with him keeping to his word to date anyone who asked him out in the first instance, he went along with it. At first, it was just a harmless hanging out during class breaks, at a club (they were in the same archery club) and going home together.
But unexpectedly, as the week drew to a close, they started to realise that they had slowly fallen in love with each other. HOWEVER. Yes, in caps. They did not have the courage to declare to each other and there was also some misunderstanding that the popular guy had been treating his weekly date as a game but in actual fact, it wasn't a game for him. It was just that by the end of the week, his heart couldn't fall in love with the said person...until now.
Sure there were some sweet moments that clearly showed they were falling for each other and while obviously neither didn't want this to end and was getting frustrated about it as the week came to a close. They both called each other dense at some points of the movie and I couldn't agree less, lol.
But it was all to a build up later when at 5pm sharp on Sunday, the words 'break up' was expected but in the end was not uttered because this time, he had truly fallen in love. Trust me, it was a very slow build up as I was also practically waiting for the time to change to 5pm with the stillness of the movie making me think I accidentally paused the video, lol. So finally they confessed their love to each other after so many misunderstandings and frustration including with this one strong headed and clingy girl who kept getting in between them. But they actually wanted to continue this relationship beyond this week.
Last time, I used to think that one would need quite a long period of time to get to know each other and see if they were meant to spend the rest of their lives together. But only your heart will know if he or she is the one for you, even if it takes just a week to make you realise that this is indeed love.
While Misu was involved in a toxic relationship, treating love as a play thing and at his beck and call, as for the other one, it was all about accepting someone as who they are, rather than how you want them to behave because that is simply their character. It can be a flaw to others but to you, it's just what makes them a unique and interesting individual. And if that said person, is also the same one who encourages you to be the best that you can, being supportive and willing to spend time with you, even if it's just a walk, having lunch or shopping together. To them, you are worth his or her time.
Great, I end up writing a long post on this. But you get the idea. Love is harmless and beautiful. But you must also know how to treat love with respect.
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