I was recommended a video recently on Youtube (besides Seal videos...shoo cute!) and it featured an inter-racial relationship of a young married couple. It piqued my interest and I wasn't the only one because it already had views of more than 150,000. I mean inter-relationships are not new and there are so many unique ones that I come across on youtube when they did vlogs, like really, love doesn't pigeon hole you into meeting someone who are just like you and who look like you too.
From the thumbnail, it showed a Malay girl in hijab and a Chinese/Korean guy. Her name is Nina and he is Hayden. Nothing uncommon these days, like I said, but to be honest why I was interested was how the title included 'Body Positivity' as well because she was of a bigger size girl married to a typical averaged built guy. I thought he was Korean at first, lol..but he was a British Born Chinese while the girl was Malaysian.
I am actually happy that people are very open minded or they just didn't care about other people's opinions anymore because they know what matters to them more, certainly not what people have to say. For them, they know for a fact that between themselves, people don't know what they have gone through in order to be together and only they know the reasons why they want to spend the rest of their lives together. Strangers especially, have no rights to dictate how their relationship should be and what kind of ideal partner they should have too.
Oh what have we fed in our minds on how a 'picture perfect' couple should be. Off the bat, I was guilty as well because I was also curious how she got herself a good looking husband who found qualities in her that goes beyond her physical beauty. But I didn't see it in a negative light like feeling as though they didn't deserve each other because of their physical differences. I just thought they made such a cute couple together.
And my curiosity too brought me to their own Youtube channel with their vlogs and from there, I might have found the reason why he had fallen for her. She has such a fun and bubbly personality, like literally a cute bean! If she was to be my friend, I will never get bored because she's so funny and cute, and full of laughs. He said during the interview that she had many attributes that he liked. Including cats, yay!
Her husband though, was the opposite, like he was soft spoken and just went along with whatever his wife was up to to make content for their vlogs like the Whisper Challenge in their latest one. Her remarks whenever people commented that her hubby was so shy and she would be like yah, but he can be quite a handful if you know him well, followed by a 'headache' emoji..lol. Then he often speaks in a rather monotone voice and when someone commented on that too, she said she knows so she would put in captions with various emojis to bring life to his tone of voice, haha.
Oh my gosh protect this couple at all cost!
But of course, they face odd looks almost every time they're out and even got strangers giving them questions. They just brushed it off with them being curious because they thought they might be stars or something coz they would be holding a mini camera for their vlogging.
Speaking of the interview, she did acknowledge that she received harsh remarks, on her Facebook, and even on her wedding day like people asking why was the bride fat. She knew that there was nothing people would point out on her husband because he was like the ideal man, but not for her.
One of their videos I watched where the hubs had to eat Malaysian snacks that she loved and rate them, I also read a mean comment about her. When someone told her that she was being mean, she said yah she knows she is, but it's the truth. She's fat because of the snacks that she eats. She should instead focus on losing weight for the sake of her husband and likened them to a show in US about fat vs skinny, something in that line.
First of all, she may think it's in the best of intentions but I think not. You don't go around telling people what they should or should not do especially when you don't even know them.
All of these remarks hurt her, of course, but she took it positively where she believed that our destined partner is a reflection of ourselves. So she might not have the physical beauty but who knows, if she's beautiful on the inside, implying that God gave her this perfect man.
Thankfully too, their parents were supportive of their relationship and even though the guy had to be a Muslim convert, he assured his parents that he would be the same person still, just a change in his lifestyle.
I used to have doubts about myself, even sometimes now when I'm older though not as much, that I can never have a skinny body or good looks. But what's important is to love yourself, irregardless of size and looks, because the love that you have for yourself first before anything else can surpass the unkind words that people have for you and even you yourself whenever you are convinced that you will never be good enough.
Everyone has insecurities but what becomes dangerous is when we let these insecurities get the better of us and we start to hate ourselves because we can't be of a certain ideal type. If you're still looking for love and after reading this, you think that the girl is just lucky, don't give up. Have hope and faith that someone will come along into your life and who will love you more than how much you love yourself.
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