Do you know that many young women suffer from low self esteem and one of the many reasons is because we like to compare ourselves to other young women and admire how they have such nice facial features, long shiny hair and a great body to boot? Like for me, I just have this erm..massive lump of fats..haha..
Okay this may sound wrong to you but it's actually okay to see other girls and just check out what they wear to have a gauge of what are in trend nowadays though it will be totally wrong to just follow the crowd blindly. Like for myself, I do admire those well dressed girls and I wish I can dress up like them too but I don't become their copycat. We can look good but we must know what are our flaws and what are our favourite body parts and we can dress them up and downplay the not so favourite ones.
But to me, besides avoiding ill fitting clothes, some other tips to help raise your self esteem especially if you're on a bigger side of the spectrum such as like moi. I may have talked about it but I'll just do a recap on it coz well..sometimes I need to be reminded as well :S
Walk tall and straight without a hint of shyness because a confident woman shows it via how she carries herself and that can be sexy.You can look slightly downwards just a bit coz it kinda make you a bit more mysterious like eh, someone may be checking you out and you show this slight disinterest like play hard to get..hehe..
It helps to wear heels at times and though we don't always have to wear those sky high ones. Heels provide you with an instant confidence booster..heh..but of course, please walk with care like careful of those grooves while you walk like when I got them stuck and had difficulty getting out. Oh, and please DO NOT drag your feet when you wear heels. Freaking annoying! Last one, please walk properly too with one foot infront of another foot instead of one foot walking properly while the subsequent foot bend inwards a bit and thereby looking as though your heels will get damaged anytime soon.
I've talked about how ill fitting clothes can make you look bad. So get those that fit you comfortably without making you look like you are wearing a sack or wearing something that looks like you spend the entire morning trying to squeeze into them. Don't try to get clothes that are either too big or too small but fits you just nice.
One of my gripes even after wearing clothes that do fit me, I often compare myself and then feels rather bad that hey, I could have looked better in this if I were smaller in size :( It's a very sick feeling coz even if others may think I do look good in them, but the mindset is just not there.
So how to get rid of that particular mindset? Just think about how you spend the time and money on that outfit and you have probably got it coz it makes you look good so just leave it as that. You look good in them and that's all that matters. Don't have to wish that you are smaller or what.
While buying the right fitting clothes can make you look good, it's also good to take good care of your overall well being. Always keep in mind that there no short cuts to losing weight but through sheer will power and the right formula which is to eat less and exercise more. Eat more healthier choices not only to keep your weight in check but also to give you the right vitamins and minerals so that you don't fall sick often coz a sick look is not a rockin' look. Eventually you will have that nice radiant that cannot be bought :)
You can eat fast food or your favourite plate of char kway teow but you must have the right balance. Pay back if you can for the next two or three days by eating much lesser and with more healthier choices. Hit the gym at least twice weekly like going to a public gym or make use of the free exercise equipments at the neighbourhood park to get a more toned and leaner look so you can stop griping about your thicker waist and protuding tummy.
We don't have a one size fits all but how media often perceives the skinny to be the size to be in but just don't be fooled by it. The truth is, when you look around you, do you think most people will care like how big your butt is or how fat your arms are. They are busy minding their own business. Most of the time, people will give you a second glance because there's something about you that catches their eye and you will never know that they actually admire something about you and for the ladies, the guy may have even thought about how pretty you are looking at that point of time :) Oh and another thing, if they DO stare because you think it's because of the size of your butt, chances are do you think they will even remember about it or worse, spread the news around on how big your butt is.
Come on, give that thought a rest! Chill babes. It takes 21 days to break a nasty habit so if you have a bad habit of slouching often when you walk thinking that you just don't look good, learn to walk tall and straight like you don't give a damn what people think about you. Instead give off that sexy vibes!
follow me at http://twitter.com/rahayupopz
Okay this may sound wrong to you but it's actually okay to see other girls and just check out what they wear to have a gauge of what are in trend nowadays though it will be totally wrong to just follow the crowd blindly. Like for myself, I do admire those well dressed girls and I wish I can dress up like them too but I don't become their copycat. We can look good but we must know what are our flaws and what are our favourite body parts and we can dress them up and downplay the not so favourite ones.
But to me, besides avoiding ill fitting clothes, some other tips to help raise your self esteem especially if you're on a bigger side of the spectrum such as like moi. I may have talked about it but I'll just do a recap on it coz well..sometimes I need to be reminded as well :S
Walk tall and straight without a hint of shyness because a confident woman shows it via how she carries herself and that can be sexy.You can look slightly downwards just a bit coz it kinda make you a bit more mysterious like eh, someone may be checking you out and you show this slight disinterest like play hard to get..hehe..
It helps to wear heels at times and though we don't always have to wear those sky high ones. Heels provide you with an instant confidence booster..heh..but of course, please walk with care like careful of those grooves while you walk like when I got them stuck and had difficulty getting out. Oh, and please DO NOT drag your feet when you wear heels. Freaking annoying! Last one, please walk properly too with one foot infront of another foot instead of one foot walking properly while the subsequent foot bend inwards a bit and thereby looking as though your heels will get damaged anytime soon.
I've talked about how ill fitting clothes can make you look bad. So get those that fit you comfortably without making you look like you are wearing a sack or wearing something that looks like you spend the entire morning trying to squeeze into them. Don't try to get clothes that are either too big or too small but fits you just nice.
One of my gripes even after wearing clothes that do fit me, I often compare myself and then feels rather bad that hey, I could have looked better in this if I were smaller in size :( It's a very sick feeling coz even if others may think I do look good in them, but the mindset is just not there.
So how to get rid of that particular mindset? Just think about how you spend the time and money on that outfit and you have probably got it coz it makes you look good so just leave it as that. You look good in them and that's all that matters. Don't have to wish that you are smaller or what.
While buying the right fitting clothes can make you look good, it's also good to take good care of your overall well being. Always keep in mind that there no short cuts to losing weight but through sheer will power and the right formula which is to eat less and exercise more. Eat more healthier choices not only to keep your weight in check but also to give you the right vitamins and minerals so that you don't fall sick often coz a sick look is not a rockin' look. Eventually you will have that nice radiant that cannot be bought :)
You can eat fast food or your favourite plate of char kway teow but you must have the right balance. Pay back if you can for the next two or three days by eating much lesser and with more healthier choices. Hit the gym at least twice weekly like going to a public gym or make use of the free exercise equipments at the neighbourhood park to get a more toned and leaner look so you can stop griping about your thicker waist and protuding tummy.
We don't have a one size fits all but how media often perceives the skinny to be the size to be in but just don't be fooled by it. The truth is, when you look around you, do you think most people will care like how big your butt is or how fat your arms are. They are busy minding their own business. Most of the time, people will give you a second glance because there's something about you that catches their eye and you will never know that they actually admire something about you and for the ladies, the guy may have even thought about how pretty you are looking at that point of time :) Oh and another thing, if they DO stare because you think it's because of the size of your butt, chances are do you think they will even remember about it or worse, spread the news around on how big your butt is.
Come on, give that thought a rest! Chill babes. It takes 21 days to break a nasty habit so if you have a bad habit of slouching often when you walk thinking that you just don't look good, learn to walk tall and straight like you don't give a damn what people think about you. Instead give off that sexy vibes!
follow me at http://twitter.com/rahayupopz
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